Recent content by Sigyn_

UPDATE: As mentioned, I had plans with Pete already booked in last night (which had been in the calendar for months). Kevin was fine with me keeping these plans. It wasn't an overnight, and though Kevin had asked if I wanted to stay with Pete overnight, I had said "no", because I had plans to do...

Lots of reasons. It wasn't a sudden decision but years of talking about it and just not knowing how to go about it. I'm pansexual, so I also wanted to experience relationships with others. Neither of us believed monogamy was right for us forever. We dipped our toes in the swinging scene first...

I think this is what I've struggled with. I've said how much time is enough? He said he can't put a figure on it, which does make it hard, especially when I do want to be with him but it's definitely not something I want every spare minute I have or at the expense of not spending time with my...

Let's call them Kevin and Pete. :) We have one child who is 4. I do know practicing poly with young children is hard work, but we've made the choice and both don't want to stop being poly and wait 10 years until she is older. Many of our practicing poly friends are also parents with young...

Thanks for your thoughts. I'm hoping Kevin and I will fit in the former scenario and he will start to feel better. It's just, how long that will take? In the latter scenario, Kevin has said something similar about wanting me to want to spend time with him. And I do, but maybe it's not to the...

Yes, means Neuro divergent.

Thanks Kevin. I have confronted him in the past about whether it's jealousy per se. He says it is more the feeling that I'm not meeting his needs in the relationship and then go out with Pete. (We are naturally primaries - mostly because of marriage, children, cohabiting - so I think he does...

He's finishing a PhD (5 years in). He goes our regularly with friends and occasionally has dates (but went quite a long time without dating so he could focus on his PhD). I wouldn't say he has self-esteem issues (we go to sex parties together occasionally and he is very charming), but he is ND...

Bit of background about my relationships: Married to "anchor" partner Kevin for 10+ years. Poly/open for 5 years. We are naturally primary (nesting, co-parents, shared finances, etc.). I have a second long term partner, Pete. We've been dating for 20 months. Kevin is currently casually dating...

Feeld is where I've (cis-female and pansexual) had the most success with genuine poly partners. My husband (cis-het male) has met most on OKC and Feeld as well. If you live in the UK we also have "We Are X" which is a rebranded from "Killing Kittens" and is a much more inclusive site for meeting...

I suppose we all come to these sorts of sites for different things, so I'll start with the main reason I've joined and a bit about myself and my polyamorous journey. The Basics Pronouns? She/her Relationship statuses? Married 10 years (M-Kevin*) and long term partnered just shy of 2 years...

I think we read the OP and their concerns differently. I'd prefer to let them read and consider my post and story for themselves and decide whether it's relevant and if any of it is useful. My intention was to counter their assumption that their partner will never feel attraction to them again...

Hello! New to this site, but your situation resonated with me (although in this situation I'm the partner going/went through NRE, and withdrew slightly from intimacy with my long term partner (anchor/husband). Bit on our background - previous "monogamish" and married (with children) for 8...