Recent content by silver-genie

Thanks for doing a deep dive; this is helpful.

This is playing with fire. You're involved in a secret affair with a woman whose husband is threatening legal action, and he doesn't know even know that she's cheating yet. (Emotional cheating is still cheating.) If he finds out, he may seek out revenge against you, whether legally or...

Women are not privileged in the dating world. When men say dating is harder for them, they're talking about being not getting matches. When women say dating is harder for them, they're talking about being abused, sexually assaulted, and traumatized. Women also struggle with finding people who...

The serial cheater storyline was so hard to watch. He is clearly very emotionally abusive towards her.

I just refer to that as romantically exclusive ENM. If there is to be a word for it, I don't think it should be "polysexual," which already has a different meaning.

I don't think there needs to be a word for someone who is able to have sex with multiple people or able to fall in love with multiple people. Most people can do both of those things; that doesn't make someone poly. Polyamory refers to how one structures their serious relationships. Someone...

It's not my definition; it's the dictionary's (Oxford English Dictionary).

As I replied to you on another thread, "polysexual" does not mean sexually attracted to multiple people. "Polysexual" means sexually attracted to multiple genders. I cited the dictionary and every single source on the first several pages of Google all giving that definition. I think it's a bit...

Presenting as a package deal for a triad is largely considered unethical because of the ways it disempowers the third person. Here are my notes on why, directed at potential unicorns: Unicorn hunting for a significant other is when couples present as a package deal for a relationship. Veto...

To expand on "You don't have a metamour problem, you have a hinge problem," here are some common meta problems that are actually hinge problems: -Hinge breaks a relationship agreement while with meta. Ex: You have an agreement with the hinge partner to always use condoms with other people...

I’m not seeing signs of abuse or lying. The problems I see are: -He is venting about his other partner to you. A hinge should not be sharing sexual details, intimate conversations, or relationship problems from one partner to the other. -He doesn’t say how he feels about you. Some people...

I disagree that having a new partner means existing partners get less time. They shouldn't get less time. And three partners doesn't mean someone's time is split in thirds. He can see each partner once a week, for example, and keep more than half of his time for himself and other commitments. I...

I appreciate your willingness to learn. Seriously dating as a package deal is considered the unethical form of unicorn hunting. I'll share my notes on why it's a bad idea, directed toward potential unicorns: Unicorn hunting for a significant other: when couples present as a package deal for a...

There's a big difference between a woman choosing to only date women and a man pressuring or dictating that she can only date women. When you say you won't date separately, are you taking about casual threesomes or serious dating? There's also a big difference between those two scenarios, ethically.

One Penis Policies are regarded as unfair because the man can see whoever he wants but the woman is restricted. The woman has to do the difficult emotional labor of seeing her partner date someone of her own sex, while the man avoids doing that labor. OPPs are often regarded as homophobic (WLW...