Recent content by silver-genie

Presenting as a package deal for a triad is largely considered unethical because of the ways it disempowers the third person. Here are my notes on why, directed at potential unicorns: Unicorn hunting for a significant other is when couples present as a package deal for a relationship. Veto...

To expand on "You don't have a metamour problem, you have a hinge problem," here are some common meta problems that are actually hinge problems: -Hinge breaks a relationship agreement while with meta. Ex: You have an agreement with the hinge partner to always use condoms with other people...

I’m not seeing signs of abuse or lying. The problems I see are: -He is venting about his other partner to you. A hinge should not be sharing sexual details, intimate conversations, or relationship problems from one partner to the other. -He doesn’t say how he feels about you. Some people...

I disagree that having a new partner means existing partners get less time. They shouldn't get less time. And three partners doesn't mean someone's time is split in thirds. He can see each partner once a week, for example, and keep more than half of his time for himself and other commitments. I...

I appreciate your willingness to learn. Seriously dating as a package deal is considered the unethical form of unicorn hunting. I'll share my notes on why it's a bad idea, directed toward potential unicorns: Unicorn hunting for a significant other: when couples present as a package deal for a...

There's a big difference between a woman choosing to only date women and a man pressuring or dictating that she can only date women. When you say you won't date separately, are you taking about casual threesomes or serious dating? There's also a big difference between those two scenarios, ethically.

One Penis Policies are regarded as unfair because the man can see whoever he wants but the woman is restricted. The woman has to do the difficult emotional labor of seeing her partner date someone of her own sex, while the man avoids doing that labor. OPPs are often regarded as homophobic (WLW...

Polyamory is a relationship agreement to be romantically non-exclusive. If someone could only be content in a poly relationship, they are polyamorous. If someone could only be content in a monogamous relationship, they are monogamous. If someone could be content in either, they are ambiamorous...

Should a person be allowed a place where they can relax and be able to not be on edge or expecting visitors? Absolutely. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you shouldn't have privacy. Some people are introverted and need alone time to recharge, without the pressure of being...

I'm so sorry that happened to you. It wasn't your fault. It sounds like your boyfriend is engaging in sexually coercive behavior, which is a form of sexual abuse. If someone ever asks you for a sex act, and you say no or otherwise express hesitation, they should drop it immediately. Your...

I didn't read the articles carefully; thank you for letting me know some of the sources were bad. Some sources being bad does not mean the other sources are. Some of the other sources are .org and .gov. When I Google "polysexual meaning" the first thing that pops up is a dictionary definition...

You're welcome to disagree. When I Google it, the first several pages of reputable sources all say the same thing. Some explain how polysexuality is different from pansexuality and polyamory. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monosexuality https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37272900/...

Just a correction, "monosexual" actually means only being attracted to one gender. "Polysexual" means being attracted to multiple genders.

Plura is my favorite because it has events in addition to matching with people.

I see - thanks for clarifying. I think you should clarify with your wife whether you are open for threesomes only or if you're poly. If you're poly, you shouldn't expect a threesome from anyone your wife is dating.