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    How to be an ethical couple for a triad?

    Presenting as a package deal for a triad is largely considered unethical because of the ways it disempowers the third person. Here are my notes on why, directed at potential unicorns: Unicorn hunting for a significant other is when couples present as a package deal for a relationship. Veto...
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    The Best Advice You've Been Given?

    To expand on "You don't have a metamour problem, you have a hinge problem," here are some common meta problems that are actually hinge problems: -Hinge breaks a relationship agreement while with meta. Ex: You have an agreement with the hinge partner to always use condoms with other people...
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    Looking for mono-poly honest but gentle support!

    I’m not seeing signs of abuse or lying. The problems I see are: -He is venting about his other partner to you. A hinge should not be sharing sexual details, intimate conversations, or relationship problems from one partner to the other. -He doesn’t say how he feels about you. Some people...
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    Looking for mono-poly honest but gentle support!

    I disagree that having a new partner means existing partners get less time. They shouldn't get less time. And three partners doesn't mean someone's time is split in thirds. He can see each partner once a week, for example, and keep more than half of his time for himself and other commitments. I...
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    I appreciate your willingness to learn. Seriously dating as a package deal is considered the unethical form of unicorn hunting. I'll share my notes on why it's a bad idea, directed toward potential unicorns: Unicorn hunting for a significant other: when couples present as a package deal for a...
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    There's a big difference between a woman choosing to only date women and a man pressuring or dictating that she can only date women. When you say you won't date separately, are you taking about casual threesomes or serious dating? There's also a big difference between those two scenarios, ethically.
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    One Penis Policies are regarded as unfair because the man can see whoever he wants but the woman is restricted. The woman has to do the difficult emotional labor of seeing her partner date someone of her own sex, while the man avoids doing that labor. OPPs are often regarded as homophobic (WLW...
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    Polyamory is a relationship agreement to be romantically non-exclusive. If someone could only be content in a poly relationship, they are polyamorous. If someone could only be content in a monogamous relationship, they are monogamous. If someone could be content in either, they are ambiamorous...
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    Is privacy too much to ask for cohabitation?

    Should a person be allowed a place where they can relax and be able to not be on edge or expecting visitors? Absolutely. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you shouldn't have privacy. Some people are introverted and need alone time to recharge, without the pressure of being...
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    My fiance wants to share me with other man knowing I am not into that, and knowing that I just don't want to be touched by other man

    I'm so sorry that happened to you. It wasn't your fault. It sounds like your boyfriend is engaging in sexually coercive behavior, which is a form of sexual abuse. If someone ever asks you for a sex act, and you say no or otherwise express hesitation, they should drop it immediately. Your...
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    I didn't read the articles carefully; thank you for letting me know some of the sources were bad. Some sources being bad does not mean the other sources are. Some of the other sources are .org and .gov. When I Google "polysexual meaning" the first thing that pops up is a dictionary definition...
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    You're welcome to disagree. When I Google it, the first several pages of reputable sources all say the same thing. Some explain how polysexuality is different from pansexuality and polyamory. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monosexuality https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37272900/...
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    What are the signs that poly is NOT for you?

    Just a correction, "monosexual" actually means only being attracted to one gender. "Polysexual" means being attracted to multiple genders.
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    Dating app recommendations?

    Plura is my favorite because it has events in addition to matching with people.
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    From 0-100 in 3 weeks

    I see - thanks for clarifying. I think you should clarify with your wife whether you are open for threesomes only or if you're poly. If you're poly, you shouldn't expect a threesome from anyone your wife is dating.
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    From 0-100 in 3 weeks

    When is your wife telling the men she's seeing that any first time sex (or sex in your house) will have to be a threesome with you? I can imagine that most people would not be comfortable with that, thus it is important to be super upfront about it. If I were chatting with someone on a dating...
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    Boundary Setting Advice for a Newbie..

    Personally, I would not date someone who required me to meet their partner before we were allowed to have sex. Nor would I want to date someone who told their partner intimate details about me without obtaining my consent, and I think I would be bothered by the level of sharing your partner is...
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    Wife wants a one-sided open relationship

    Maybe a sex therapist would be able to help her orgasm like she did before having kids? I would find it really rough if I could no longer orgasm via masturbation or anything but strenuous intercourse. When you became exclusive, did you two discuss what constitutes cheating? It's important to be...
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    My partner of three years are both poly and had a threesome but he broke a big rule and i don't know how to move on with my kink life.

    You've been getting a lot of good feedback as to how to repair trust, but I wanted to address the part of your post where you express sadness that you can no longer explore your threesome kink. Have you considered exploring threesomes as a third to other couples? While that can come with its own...
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    Need advice please - your partner and crushes

    A boundary is a limit you place on your own behavior to keep yourself safe. An agreement is a limit people place on each other's behavior and is mutually decided. A rule is a limit you place on someone else's behavior. It sounds like you want to make a rule for your boyfriend that he can't...
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