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Hi again. Just wanted to come back for a minute to provide an update and explain why i stopped responding suddenly. First, i am moving and also got a new job that, for a few weeks, has me working long hours 7 days a week. So i just don't have much time for, well, much of anything, haha. Which...

MightyMax, unfortunately I can't. That's the reason that I've dropped it as a good idea. It seemed true for some reason, but I can't really pin down what that reason might be, so I'm no longer supporting it as a good policy. KC43, you're correct in that I'm doing a fair amount of speculating. I...

I hope she does. I'm not under the impression that it's very important to my wife, but it may be and she's just not comfortable with conveying that to me right now. Maybe I'll suggest some ways she could approach it, or maybe just talking to me about it will make her more willing to talk to her...

Hi tenK. First, I think your summary is pretty spot on. To answer a couple questions you raised: . My wife is actually the one who brought the subject up, and requested that rule, with the reasoning I gave. The reason I've felt like it was a good idea is because I had arrived at the same...

Hi PinkPig, thank you for joining in! :) The main reason I feel like my situation is different from what you've described is that, even before my wife and I cancelled our agreement, it was only ever intended to keep feelings the friend might have for me (and their extension into jealousy aimed...

FallenAngelina, you are largely right here. While I had to look up the term NSA (it seemed obvious that you weren't talking about the government spying on me, but beyond that I had no idea), that is kind of the idea that informed my assumption that we weren't really supposed to be having any...

WhatHappened, of course I didn't expect a bunch of agreement. I did expect responses to be less harsh, and seem more like constructive criticism. It's not that responses have been bad, they were just a little rougher than I expected (or I maybe incorrectly perceived them that way), and I didn't...

Becca, I'd just ignore the comment about ethics. I think slowly, communicate poorly, and was trying to come up with a decent response on a 20 min lunch break via tablet...which wasn't a good idea. Basically what I meant was that I identify as a realist, not an idealist, I guess. That's all. Like...

So I'm off work, and I've had a chance to read things over. First, I want to say thanks again for all of the input. [I've noticed that I talk a lot below about things I may do, or conversations I may have. Generally, what I mean is conversations that I, my wife, or both of us will have...

First, thank you both for your responses! :) MightyMax, I can definitely where you are coming from, and especially after reading some stuff on unicorn hunting, I've worried a little bit about the possibility of backfiring, as well as just generally being unfair. One point i do want to address...

So, the reason I came to the boards here in the first place is because I've found myself in a situation that, while I'm enjoying it, I really don't have a lot of experience to use in dealing with. I want to do whatever I can to help it turn out well, but yeah, not a lot of experience in this...

Hi. To be brief: I'm a basically monogamous man, in a basically monogamous relationship. However, there's a small chance that the mono aspect may be changing, and whether or not it does, some of the details of the "basically" part leave me really wanting to talk to people who are more...