Recent content by spotthezebra

Sorry this turned out to be really long. So I've identified as poly for a long time, and had lots of experience with dating people with multiple partners, dating couples and so on, and I'm a pro at maintaining my jealousy and communicating when I can't. I'm really good at that whole part of...

She knows and accepts it because ultimately she wants him to be happy and that's who he is. But she is jealous of and threatened by me. We've met and I've always been kind but she doesn't like me and I've accepted that she might not ever like me. They clearly really care about each other and...

@nycindie, thank you!!!! That really puts things in perspective for me. It is okay for me to feel this way and I'm sure he'll accept it too. His primary just might be uncomfortable because she's not into polyamory or my being in his life. But she copes and when their relationship affects mine, I...

I feel like I should describe myself before I describe my situation. I'm independent, and don't usually even get into relationships. I like the poly lifestyle because I can have relationships without them taking up too much time or energy on my part. I usually just have one, and let my partner...

Updates: We got to talk last night. Basically, their polyamory is pretty one-sided. She's not into it, but it's part of who she is so she lets him see other people. If I meet her, it won't be anytime soon because she will see me as competition and get jealous. But she knows about me and...

Thank you. That was very helpful. I just want to point out that she knows about me. He just has told me things about himself he hasn't told her. Although it's been such a short time, I don't normally get NRE like this. It's definitely special. I really like the idea of trying to meet her...

I met this guy less than a month ago. We super connected and spent a lot of time together. He has a primary relationship with a girl who's out of the country until the beginning of the year. One of the things that I really like doing in situations like this is meeting my partner's partners, and...