Recent content by StarseedDE

Hi, I've been following this thread too. I am also diagnosed with BPD and I'm in therapy for 9 years. I became to realize I have different views on things that are not considered "normal" like always having had issues understanding why there would only be one partner at a time allowed. I don't...

Thanks again for your insights and the brutal truth. I'm not feeling much better so far but I guess time will show. I still try to comprehend how this went from best friends to nothing. Got another text yesterday where he even called me sweety again, stated that he and x both still like me...

@galagirl I think that was the best image for describing healthy selfishness I have ever seen. Thank for this.

I have to admit I have trouble kicking him out of my life. There was so much good the past year and my feelings cannot agree with reason that this just was it. That everything was just a game. I told him he doesn't have to tell me about dates, that is when he stated it would be fair to tell...

Thanks for the welcome Kevin

Hi all, Thanks again for your comments. It helped me finding some of my self confidence again. Y texted me today that this coming week he has two dates with new girls he has met online. I asked why he told me. He said it would be fair to let me know and we would be friends so he did was he had...

Thank you for the feedback so far and the link to the models. Should have mentioned that it started out primary/primary. Y's ideal was to treat all his relationships equally which I told him would be difficult because of the kids. He stated timewise that would be true but on an emotionally...

Hello, just wanted to say Hi to everyone. I am new to the board and poly. I am 34, female from Germany. I had a try on poly this year and failed miserably. I am in no relationship right now. Trying to see if it is because of my understanding of poly. I consider it my ideal way of creating a...

Hello, I am new to the forum and poly. I stumpled on it by accident and was caught right away because it described my ideas how I would like to have relationships but always found something must be wrong with me because I cannot commit to only one relationship or better, why committing to only...