StarseedDE
New member
Hi,
I've been following this thread too. I am also diagnosed with BPD and I'm in therapy for 9 years. I became to realize I have different views on things that are not considered "normal" like always having had issues understanding why there would only be one partner at a time allowed. I don't like being around many people but if I care for someone I'm getting close. Admitting I may fall for people too quickly and tend to forget myself and put the others before me. That is where I still have lots of work to do otherwise I will always end up being hurt.
However I think even with a personality disorder you can live poly however I have trouble believing without therapy it would go easy but that goes for mono relationships as well. You need to be willed to work on yourself and learn to deal with difficult situations avoiding to blame everything on the partner(s) or even "just" friends. With mental illnesses a therapy is probably needed. Only very very few would be able to do it themselves.
I've been following this thread too. I am also diagnosed with BPD and I'm in therapy for 9 years. I became to realize I have different views on things that are not considered "normal" like always having had issues understanding why there would only be one partner at a time allowed. I don't like being around many people but if I care for someone I'm getting close. Admitting I may fall for people too quickly and tend to forget myself and put the others before me. That is where I still have lots of work to do otherwise I will always end up being hurt.
However I think even with a personality disorder you can live poly however I have trouble believing without therapy it would go easy but that goes for mono relationships as well. You need to be willed to work on yourself and learn to deal with difficult situations avoiding to blame everything on the partner(s) or even "just" friends. With mental illnesses a therapy is probably needed. Only very very few would be able to do it themselves.