Recent content by Tigergirl

Thanks for your input, all! It's appreciated! Right now, the situation is this: I expressed to Joe my concerns about Sue and why they affected me, as well as other poly related issues that we need to discuss now that we are living together. He was completely receptive to what I was saying and...

This situation is REALLY common among kinky people. He's ok with her having a girlfriend most likely because it's not "threatening" to him as a man or a Dom. (Especially if it's a very casual, mostly sexually based relationship- then it's just hit for him to think about/see/take part in.) Also...

I actually have very minimal contact with Sue. The last time I saw her in person was a month ago, and that was only because she attended a social event that I was hosting. We were polite and behaved in a friendly manner, but pretty much kept our distance. (It was a gathering for submissive...

This is true, and a good point. I appreciate that. Right now, I'm just so all over the place emotionally about it that I'm just sort of trying to gather my own thoughts about it. I know I tend to shy away from talking to Sue at all, especially about problems, due to her erratic behavior in the...

My metamour is up to her usual schtick- passive aggression and lying. I'm really not sure what to do. Here's what went down: For much of our time together, we have been in a closed V. None of us were looking for any other partners. Joe has always been open to either Sue or myself having other...

I think your longstanding friendship is what's really causing this issue. You don't have the typical metamour relationship of mostly just being connected due to a shared partner. I'm sure over 28 years of being BFF, you two have pretty freely shared info with each other and for many things, your...

Thank you all for your replies. I appreciate it. Until I wrote it down and saw the replies, I hadn't realized how much the erratic scheduling was an issue for me. I wouldn't have a problem with him seeing her an equal amount of time as he sees me- I just need a clearer schedule and better...

As I've mentioned in other posts, I've recently moved in with my partner, Joe. The transition was sudden and rocky (finding a place happened much sooner than anticipated), but things have started to settle in to a decent routine and we seem to do well living together. The thing neither of us...

Thanks to all for your responses! While I've come very far in my attempts to learn healthy relationship boundaries and how to apply them, I do tend to second guess myself if I don't fall in to a more enabling route. It has been very helpful to see others think as I do about this. I discovered...

Although I'm not particularly friends with her, I have been "friends" with my metamour Sue on various social media for almost the entire length of this poly relationship. I tend to be a much more frequent user of all forms of social media than she is- particularly for work purposes for me, being...

I think part of my issue is I don't know where to further "cast my net" beyond the BDSM scene, as being kinky is a very important factor for a potential partner. Local poly stuff might work- it's just that there's not much opportunity to explore that option in person. There are only three...

I've been happily focusing on my relationship with Joe for 2.5 years, and things are great. Since it's important to my question, I'll include that we have a power exchange relationship with him as the Dominant partner. I tend to be submissive with male partners, and dominant or switchy with...

OP- It's really awesome that you are trying so hard to be a kind member of this V. That says a lot about you, and Rider and Claire are lucky to have somebody who thinks about the effects of actions and behaviors. My thought is this though- when you tip Rider off to how he should treat Claire, it...

My boyfriend of two years and I recently had a discussion regarding the future, and we would both like to head in to the living together/marriage/babies relationship zone, which is great. Our relationship with each other is awesome, as is my relationship with his son. (He is a single dad, and...

At most, if you feel you need to invite the husband as well to be polite, do that so you won't feel bad, quietly explain to your friend your thoughts on inviting both her partners (since they aren't out, she might choose to only come with her husband, not her boyfriend), and let THEM figure out...