Recent content by Tigger40

NYCindie, you have just guaranteed that I'll leave the forum. I have no reason to stick around, and you just gave me a reason to leave. I choose not to be around people who act like you-- internet strangers who, protected by your anonymity, go by another name-- trolls. But you can feel good...

Kevin, thanks for responding to the question. That was largely missing from this discussion and I do appreciate having the input. It seems I failed to fully clarify that my question was about experiences, and I was less interested in discussing the ethical question. As you said, that is a...

I'm very new to this forum (and new to poly) and I am disappointed. Forums frequently degenerate into disrespectful judgments. It was naive to think that a forum dedicated to polyamory-- something that's inherently vulnerable to judgments from our social networks-- would be more sensitive. What...

What is DADT? I'm more interested in actual experiences than "I'd never do this." I'm curious what has and hasn't worked for other people. If a lot of people chime in with "Tried that; it was a disaster," then I'll have some serious reservations before trying it myself. Or if there are some...

What do you think about being someone's secret (from his wife)? I had a brief flirtation where I was someone's secret. I kept it secret too, but that was just for fun-- if I were found out, there would be no consequences, because that's how my marriage is right now. I mean, it's fun. But it...

I'm an ESTJ. Novelty seeking. I love that dopamine fix of NRE.

Thank you for the kind and comforting words. I will look into the links you both recommend.

We're ~40, married ~20 years, recently empty-nesters as our only child is finishing her freshman year of college. I've toyed with but had never seriously considered the idea of poly as a legitimate option, despite my habit of repeatedly falling in love with all the wrong people. ('Wrong' as in...