Recent content by Tophatcat

It sounds like you and your husband needs to both be involved in creating boundaries and rules for the relationships. When you are new it might help to read what other people do and see what you all think would work for you. And remember those rules aren't set in stone. You may find some that...

It sounds like you are struggling with jealousy more than anything. Which is a normal response to these things especially when new to poly. There is nothing wrong with jealousy as long as you recognize it and handle it. And be honest about it. It may help to talk with K about it since he has...

Thanks for all the input everyone. The big thing is I really want to avoid using veto but my partner consistently ignores all my boundries with his gf. I have told both of them and especially him that I don't want to be involved. I don't want to know their problems, I don't want to be involved...

Ive been mono and I've been poly. Either one works for me. Though I haven't been in a mono relationship in a long time.

You already made a good first move asking for a shorter period of time. I think it is too soon really for her to be asking that since you aren't even looking to date anyone else. If you have a light going off about it or a concern and she disregards it and will not compromise that may not be...

So I've been struggling with this for a while and I just dont know what to do. I hate my partner's gf with the passion of a thousand firey suns. Absolutely loathe her. We had been friends but she kept mistreating my partner. We all went on vacation together, which was to somewhere on her bucket...