Recent content by Val76

Well.... My gf would have understood how crazy, busy life is with 3 kids, put up the tree and made it ‘special’ for kids regardless if Christmas is ‘over’ or not. I would KNOW hubby and gf missed me while I was away but KNOW they would show me when I came home. Part of being in a functional...

Thank you;) I found this article to be very informative & refreshing. 11 months living as a triad MFF, the NRE is slowly dissolving and we have ALL changed and grown. We have 4 girls together and hardly enough time to ‘communicate’ amongst the 3 of us, but each relationship has grown and we are...

They know better I wanted to reply, but knew someone with more experience would come through and they DID! Thanks Magdlyn. If you are already feeling insecure and trying too find labels (primary/secondary) I feel you are setting yourself up for a heartbreak. Triads are challenging when...

Read it too I read every thread you wrote glad you came back for update. Hang in there. I think it may just take time babe! Just keep doing your best and forget the rest;)

Honesty is best It's late in Hawaii but I will respond later if I feel compeeled. I am in a triad, introduction can be found under-so far so blessed. We have 2 teenaged daughters involved and they are smart & intuitive. Take the time to explain how your relationship started and continues to...

Fwiw I am very new to the 'polyamory' lifestyle I have NO idea what's right or wrong. However I KNOW that the time you spend worrying about and trying to control, will not matter in the end. I find myself swimmers in Da-Nile river! How and what did I do to deserve so much love? It takes a...

.....good call;) When I quit working my hubby, oldest kid and many friends and former customers told me seriously that I should write a book. That was before I was blessed with all the love that now surrounds me! My state senator and representative begged me to enter an election, I did and WON...

Hang in there My father was an alcoholic and an addict to many 'other things'. When I was 28 him, my Mother & I were discussing that addiction is a disease and he needed help. We wanted him to get healthy. It became a bit heated and he picked up his Glock 9mm and shot himself in the head as I...

Like 'button' Wish there were a like button on here;). We are all growing through communication which can bring up stuff that's been suppressed for a long time and forces us out of our comfort zones. This weekend we've had Destined here (we only get her every other weekend) and it is amazing...

Liquid Aloha As I sit here in my yard, in the western most habitated valley on the island of Oahu the tradewinds are keeping me cool. My Mom is in Merritt Island, FL (where NASA is-on a barrier island) hunkered down in her home waiting on a HUGE hurricane to come, reak havoc and go. Since it's...

My experience FWIW I recently posted my story in the Introduction section tilted So far.....So Blessed. We basically did our best to be clean about everything due to 2 of 4 daughters are teenagers. However one day at beach while all kids were in water they saw us being affectionate. Destined...

Maybe? I understand you are way more experienced with many different poly situations than I am. I have read and appreciate most of your threads as well as replies. However, in our family, Glorious brings the LEAST amount of drama and I think it's because of her upbringing as a foster child...

Thank you Thank you all for your refreshing comments. This 'triad' relationship has been a LOT to process. With 3 adults & 4 kids it leaves our lives without many dull moments. Having found a balance (so to speak) happened quite naturally. In our case I think Glorious is so pleased to have a...

Aloha everyone I have been 'lurking' on here a while, commented on a few threads but thought I would formally introduce myself. I am Valerie 41 female. I am very outgoing, loud, flirtatious, loving and caring. I was always an equal opportunity 'dater' both sexes all races. 'A-mag', my...

Well done I've been reading! You were given sound advice and it seems like you absorbed and digested it. GOOD FOR YOU! Pat yourself on the back for me!