As of yesterday were now a closed Vee, whilst still being happily married to my husband of 9 years.
We are all very excited, yet know we have a hard road ahead of us. Many of our close friends think were crazy! Even though a lot of them said they already saw it coming from a mile away because we have been sleeping together and basically are always together in general for many years now.
We were doing just fine until a swinging opportunity arose for my husband and I...Secondary FREAKED! It forced us to sit and talk about feelings. I, too, was not comfortable with his single lifestyle and being with other women, stating the day he told us he found a girlfriend, I would be crushed. BF said, if I engage with another man, he's done as well. Loooooong story short, we are happiest together without any outsiders. Closing our relationship to just us 3, with a lot of love.
Now, we are trying to figure out how to make it work. Here are our questions for this online community:
What about the kids? Do we lay low for a while? BF has 3 (6, 12, 14), we have 4 (10, 12, 14, 16) We also have 3 exes involved between the 3 of us these children are seeing on a regular basis. Are kids and exes going to pick up on it? They haven't noticed already after 3 years, but now were adjusting more time spent for BF and I, so they could. To tell or not to tell...or to wait?
For women in uninhabited MFM Vees...How do you split up your time between them? Who goes where, when, and is it tiring? I felt suddenly overwhelmed thinking of caring for 2 men, how do I make sure they are okay, and that I am there for both of them when we don't live together? All I can picture is driving back and forth a lot. With my now BF being single for so long I feel a responsibility to cook, clean, and help him. Is that weird?
We are SO relieved to find this forum, and hope we can get good advice and guidance. We all are deeply in love and are ready to fight to keep it healthy. Any support is greatly appreciated. We really don't want to fuck this up.
We are all very excited, yet know we have a hard road ahead of us. Many of our close friends think were crazy! Even though a lot of them said they already saw it coming from a mile away because we have been sleeping together and basically are always together in general for many years now.
We were doing just fine until a swinging opportunity arose for my husband and I...Secondary FREAKED! It forced us to sit and talk about feelings. I, too, was not comfortable with his single lifestyle and being with other women, stating the day he told us he found a girlfriend, I would be crushed. BF said, if I engage with another man, he's done as well. Loooooong story short, we are happiest together without any outsiders. Closing our relationship to just us 3, with a lot of love.
Now, we are trying to figure out how to make it work. Here are our questions for this online community:
What about the kids? Do we lay low for a while? BF has 3 (6, 12, 14), we have 4 (10, 12, 14, 16) We also have 3 exes involved between the 3 of us these children are seeing on a regular basis. Are kids and exes going to pick up on it? They haven't noticed already after 3 years, but now were adjusting more time spent for BF and I, so they could. To tell or not to tell...or to wait?
For women in uninhabited MFM Vees...How do you split up your time between them? Who goes where, when, and is it tiring? I felt suddenly overwhelmed thinking of caring for 2 men, how do I make sure they are okay, and that I am there for both of them when we don't live together? All I can picture is driving back and forth a lot. With my now BF being single for so long I feel a responsibility to cook, clean, and help him. Is that weird?
We are SO relieved to find this forum, and hope we can get good advice and guidance. We all are deeply in love and are ready to fight to keep it healthy. Any support is greatly appreciated. We really don't want to fuck this up.
