Recent content by vansername

I want to thank you guys for the advice. I'm working on it and have been working on saying, "this is something bothering me" and being able to work with my own problems and have support feels really good. Not worrying is more of a challenge, but, baby steps?

So, basically, I'm out as Poly to a few friends, my partners, my mom, and my sister. There are some people that I want to come out to, and I've decided how I'd explain polyamory to them, but, not how I'd bridge to the topic of eing Poly myself. For those of you that are out to people, how'd you...

My advice is not to try to force a triad. You have to let things happen the way they will; if you form a connection with the husband and love him then fine, but if you try to feel something you don't then things could get crazy and both relationships could be destroyed. I would tell them that...

Honestly, I think my worry's probably a combination of projecting my stuff on them and just the fact that I know their minds go to dark places sometimes. Like, with Gabe, there have been suicide attempts and they pretty much came out of the blue. But I guess I have to work on asking if...

I was seeing someone, but, she wasn't really a good fit for me. Actually, I've tried several who weren't good fits. It's a long process. I guess one thing about it is that it's just hard for me to say, "These are two very important people in my life. I would do absolutely anything for them...

Okay, I'm not sure the title here really got my point across, but, here's what I'm pondering. My sister and I were having a conversation yesterday about polyamory because I had just come out recently to her and my mother, and I was looking for a way to bring up my new partner (a close friend who...

The first thing I should explain is that I'm the kind of person who likes to think about other people before myself. I may be in a situation where I should be concerned with my own wellbeing, but, I care more about checking in on friends and such. One of my partners has even pointed out that I...

Really hoping you aren't still with him! That definitely isn't poly. Further more, it's abuse. No one should EVER stay with a partner that tells them "no one's going to love you like I do," or apologizes but turns the situation around on you. Those are signs of emotional abuse. I put up with...

Thanks guys, this is really helpful. It's one of the things that I'm struggling most with because he is the first person I've ever really loved, and I don't want him to feel neglected or like I'm drifting or anything.

I recently discussed the fact that I had figured out my identity as Poly with my boyfriend. I knew that he wasn't prejudiced against Polys or anything, but, I didn't know how he would take it from me, so I was definitely relieved when he told me that the most important thing to him was that I...

I was hoping there might be some Poly Christians who are out and willing to share their experiences. My religion is important to me, and it's the main thing holding me back from coming out as poly to everyone. It is also the reason I've been too afraid to come out to my parents. My mother is bi...