Recent content by Xevyon

Well you might be right about that. She also had a fling with a guy after her ex (which she admitted was a terrible idea) that turned out to be an abusive stalker and she in in therapy for anxiety/low self esteem issues. So in essence, she has a lot on her plate and I don't want to add any more...

Yes, I was not trying to downplay that those connections can also be fulfilling in their own way. I had one before where i felt like that too but the person in question wanted to date me as a "boyfriend" so it ended up not working out because I was hurting her. I'm just stating that for me I...

Yes, thanks for the encouragement. Your encouragement on the other post was a driving factor of me trying something with C to be honest. Unfortunately it fell flat but at least I can understand that my relationship with A couldn't work and I can understand myself better too. Yes, not taking A...

Thanks a lot for the reply. Yes I think some distance between me and C could be helpful to process things. At least, if we do decide to take things forward there is full knowledge and I will try my best to communicate.

Yeah it would have been easier, but I only realised 1.5 years in and told her, expecting her to break up with me over it. She did not however and tried to understand. Understanding and dealing with it are actually two different things though... Yeah that one was definitely me being hasty with...

Thanks for the reply! Yes, that seems to be the case. She knew was an hypothetical scenario but when it came about she couldn't handle it. Yes, she even inquired if I truly had feelings for C and wasn't only lust. I think she was hoping it was just a crush and I would not find her interesting...

Thanks for the reply! Yes, I felt like this would happen again and I would only make A more sad. She would never break up on her own accord so I did it because it didn't feel right as things were. Yeah, C is more busy but didn't seem to want to break what we had. We will however take things...

Thanks for the reply! Yes i felt like it was an endless back and forth and then by the end she just wanted things how they were before but it was impossible. The more she told me not to go the more I wanted to go because C was making me feel understood and safe too. C talked with me today. She...

Hello everyone! So some of you might have read my last thread tittled "Caught in a difficult situation". So basically, i wanted to date a girl that I didn't know if would be ok with me being Poly or not, long story short: She was ok with it. Here comes the problematic part: My gf , let's cal...

Update: Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I talked with her and she was very kind and understanding. We will have a date next Wednesday. She doesn't seem to mind me being poly and wants to learn more about it. She also came out as bi just not too long ago so I guess while different...

Thank you for your message! Yes, I know what you mean. I didn't exactly try to hide it cause when we started talking we kept it work-related and when we started talking more we discussed general topics but never relationships. She came out of the blue to my city and It was only then I saw it...

Thank you for your message! Doesn't seem like it is for a rebound. She didn't seem too pushy about seeing me in person, etc. That said I didn't inquire much, only know they broke up around 3 months ago so I can't dismiss it as a possibility. Yeah, that's true. We haven't been in contact these...

UPDATE: I'm sorry guys, I failed you all. We ended up going out and I was trying to see if i had an opening to talk about the poly stuff. However, the conversation turned south when she started talking about her recent breakup. It was quite recent and this made me second guess if she might need...

Thanks for the reply! As I said I'm unsure about it, in part due to how she might feel about that "gap" too. So my conclusion after introspection and your comments would be to at least give her the opportunity to reject it if she is not comfortable rather than me deciding to shut the door...

Thank you for the reply. Yes that's exactly right. We didn't even meet in a dating app or similar so I'm not even sure she sees it that way either. We are going out next week for a dinner. We didn't set it up as a date but maybe is best to tell her, even if I introduce it more like a casual...