Thank you for your message! Doesn't seem like it is for a rebound. She didn't seem too pushy about seeing me in person, etc. That said I didn't inquire much, only know they broke up around 3 months ago so I can't dismiss it as a possibility.One, she JUST broke up. If she's looking for a rebound relationship or woobie person it does not have to be you.
Are you NOT wanting to let this go? You DO want to date the woman?
Then just ask her out properly on a romantic date. She will tell you "yes, thanks" or "no, thanks."
If she's always been kind to you? Be kind back by providing CLEAR INTENTIONS rather than pussyfooting around.
Yeah, that's true. We haven't been in contact these past few days but I did ask her to meet so I could be honest with things as I said and she said she would tell me when she is available.
I'm not sure how she feels about me but if she does come I'll be clear on things.
Yeah. At first, I was not sure but as I expressed to Bariah I would be open to giving it a shot.Are you NOT wanting to let this go? You DO want to date the woman?
I mean trust. She could think I was dishonest and feel that me not having told her the first day as a problem somehow.What exactly are you trying to salvage that you broke or messed up?
She even asked, "Why did you come to see me on purpose here in my city?"
And I kinda deflected it with a "why not".
Yeah, well haven't been too optimistic in relationships lately and since being poly had no luck.But I will gently suggest you consider no longer being your own bully. The " I don't deserve her" down talk stuff. Why do that? Is this a habit?
And why not? You think you don't deserve to be around nice people?
Ironically, she acted more nervous than I did when we met but while I kept composure, inside I was feeling unworthy somehow. I know that that's not true but I felt like that anyway.
That's true. I've been feeling like a nervous wreck for the past two weeks.could be wrong, but most of this sounds like you not being direct in your communication with her and trying to mind reader or guess what she's thinking so you can ask her out and not risk her saying "No, thanks." Like you want to know the answer is gonna be "yes" before you ask the question so you don't have to feel yucky.
And kinda upset you can't magically do that. So it feels yucky anyway.
Yes, you are right there. When I went to meet her on my mind I was like "oh, is just a meet-up. I just want to know how her better." But after I left it didn't seem enough. Inside me, I knew I wanted more out of this.This fence sitting thing doesn't sound like a pleasant place to sit. So... for what it is worth? I suggest getting off the fence.