Recent content by xmoonember

These are truly such lovely reminders. 🥺 Thank you for being so kind!

Thank you for clarifying your point. It's interesting that you mention expectations because it has always been a pitfall to me. Especially because I have a habit of creating expectations in my head, not communicating them, and then feeling hurt when they don't go the way I want. I'm really...

This is a shared thing we both do. For example, tonight he is going to hang out with some friends. I'll put the kids to bed. If I go out, he puts them to bed. We live in a granny flat connected to my in-laws house, so if we both go out we at least have someone here to watch monitors. And if we...

Ultimately, I just want to thank you for providing such a thorough response with a lot of thought provoking and challenging questions. I've been really thinking hard about these the past few days. Regarding meeting my kids - the "next meaningful step" was his expression, not mine. I do not...

7/3/26 So I spent the night with Finch and it was very lovely. We went on a walk to grab food, watched my favorite movie (Princess Bride), were intimate, and then had an hour of chatting before falling asleep. We talked about our feelings and where we're at, though there was a lot of dancing...

After this post I told Duck I was considering breaking up with Finch. We had a pretty emotional phone call where we concluded I have just been making assumptions and building a narrative (my therapist would be so disappointed). So I'm just going to have to be vulnerable and talk to Finch...

Start. 7/1/26 Sort of made the mistake of having my first journal post re: feelings be its own separate thing. If I could edit that post to be the start I would. Maybe I'm just becoming internet illiterate. Well, let's get into it ~ A few weeks ago I spent the night at Finch's place for the...

Maybe this visualization will help? I'm not sure what this shape would otherwise be. 😅

On Friday my husband told me that he and our partner, Raven, said they love each other. I am so beyond happy for them! My initial reaction was just a warm and fuzzy feeling, I was kicking my legs like a schoolgirl. It was so cute and seemed like such a vulnerable, touching moment between the...

Wanted to chime in again and apologize for not responding to the last few comments. I think I was overwhelmed and just sort of shut down. But I appreciate everyone's input! I didn't end up going to the event and to my knowledge nothing happened between Finch and anyone else. So no harm no foul.

Thanks for your insight. I do understand solo poly (my partner Raven is), so I was just being a bit rhetorical. 😅 Based on your reply I'd also consider my relationship structure as polyamorous. I just don't understand why others would suggest it isn't.

This is what I was basing my response off of. But you and I seem to have a similar idea of what constitutes polyamory.

Thanks for the reply. I actually had to pull out my laptop so I could properly respond (typing is easier than texting haha). So Duck and I live with his parents and our kids while we aggressively save up for a home of our own. This allows us to go out after their bedtime since someone is always...

You know what, I think you're so right. I was looking at this through a different lens than he was.

He's a busy guy and I don't think he puts as much stock into our relationship as I do. He's also just kind of clueless but generally receptive to feedback. We had a talk a couple weeks ago about where we stood (more thank just kink partners, more than FWB) and I think that sunk me a bit deeper...