Recent content by zusammen

Hi SaBo, Thanks for sharing. I also seem to end up with mono guys who are willing to "see what happens" with me. To this day I don't know how it would feel to be on the "receiving end", whereby he is the one seeing other people. I imagine - and fear - that I would feel jealous, and subsequently...

And isn't that the beauty of polyamory? You can connect with someone over certain things, certain feeling sets, though you may be incompatible in regards to marriage/having children/having sex/playing tennis together, whatever. It struck me as I read this thread that I don't give much credence...

Love this! Hi all, I'm not much of a poster, but I read frequently. I love this whole topic, because I see myself as poly in more casual ways. Sometimes it's hard to find personally relevant topics on here as so many people seem to have a number of serious relationships, or are involved in...

So that is kind of what I thought it might mean. That sounds lovely! A lot of what makes me identify as polyamorous is the fact that relationships can involve all sorts of different "feeling sets" - they don't need to involve sex (or romance, or affection, or anything else in particular) to...

Thanks for all your input. It's interesting to hear how others go about this kind of thing. As I said, it's okay with me however each of them wants to proceed, although running in the same circles concerns me. Ideally, for me, I would want us to be able to all be together at the same time, and...

So you are female and have a straight girlfriend? I don't mean to sound rude, but I'm just curious about what that means. I'm female and, sexually, 100% heterosexual. Emotionally, even affectionately, I could be bi, I think, but that has never been put to the test :p

Some of you may have read in my previous post about how I hate labels, while wondering how to explain polyamory to a new interest. That is all sorted now. I've spoken to Ajax again about what it all means, and that I'm involved with someone else (Flax), and how, for now, we're agreeing to keep...

"Gloomy Sunday" (1999) (Ein Lied von Liebe und Tod). From imdb: "Budapest in the thirties. The restaurant owner Laszlo hires the pianist András to play in his restaurant. Both men fall in love with the beautiful waitress Ilona who inspires András to his only composition. His song of Gloomy...

What a great question! Not too long ago I was struggling with concepts of love myself... Once I detached it from romance, I pretty much realised I identify as poly. Love for me is a special connection, but it can be of any type. There are people I love but have no particular interest in...

Zusammen! Hello all!! I'm Zusammen, which is German for "together" -- but don't read too much into that; I'm a linguist more than a sentimentalist, and I just like the way the word sounds :D I'm 29, female, and a Canadian Kiwi. The closest I have ever come to accurately describing my...

Thanks for the responses, and the link. That all makes a lot of sense, and I think my head has cleared a little on the matter now, but it really is just the initial ice breaker that I struggle with. If people ask me questions, I have no problem explaining, but to just begin the talk out of...

Hi all. New here, and fairly new to polyamoury. Please bear with my rambling... as you'll see, I'm not very good at putting my thoughts on this subject into words.... Anyway, I recently met someone with whom I have a great connection. I've been seeing him, sort of hoping "the" conversation...