Elizabeth3500

Hi Nordic - thanks for all that you have written

Definitely trying to use patience as my mantra.

Tonight I am going to ask the BF if he has heard from HR about insurance (therapy - couples, but also just for dealing with his own demons, alcohol being the biggest), if he is feeling pressured by me on the counseling, any ideas that he has to propose.

Discussion is never easy with him because it's - 'I just got off of work and need to relax,' 'I am trying to wind down and get ready to go to sleep,' 'I am too - you fill in the blank.'

I am feeling blue today because it's an overwhelming.

I haven't been able to spend time with my second guy and I miss the calm his presence gives me.

I spent the weekend with my parents and my BF. He is amazing in helping me get through the stress that they create for me and I am so grateful and have told him repeatedly.

But I still miss affectionate contact.

I hope things have been going well for you lately.


Elizabeth

Elizabeth, thanks for the message and I am sure that things will with out for the best. I've learned something over the course of the past few weeks with my beaus...patience is critical to making situations like this work.

The right timing for the right people at the right moment in their lives...sort of necessary for the stars to align.

My situation with my ex had added complications in that he was HIV POZ, and I am negative. There were life barriers that got in the way of the deeper intimacy a couple should have.

Every situation is different, but the best advice anyone can give is find patience. Love yourself first, flaws and all.

All the best, good luck and keep your head above water. Stay in touch.