I have a lot going on inside myself right now and it's a combination of things that I have felt before. However this is the first time that I have felt them as deeply as I do now. My girlfriend of two years came out to me as Poly. Obviously, being someone who has maintained monogamy all my short life, I was not okay with it.
To start, she told me a few months ago that she was interested in exploring, and brought up that she had mentioned the need for both of us to be “free” when we first started dating. At the time, I didn't understand what she had been saying, and I’m pretty sure she didn’t either. When she finally gave me the ultimatum it was hard for me. She expressed that she loves me and that she wants to be with me. She also said that she can't go on being mono anymore, and had to experience different people. She is firm that she still wants to be with me as a primary. We live together, and we have built a life with each other.
To start, she told me a few months ago that she was interested in exploring, and brought up that she had mentioned the need for both of us to be “free” when we first started dating. At the time, I didn't understand what she had been saying, and I’m pretty sure she didn’t either. When she finally gave me the ultimatum it was hard for me. She expressed that she loves me and that she wants to be with me. She also said that she can't go on being mono anymore, and had to experience different people. She is firm that she still wants to be with me as a primary. We live together, and we have built a life with each other.