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OP, there is nothing about your entire situation that isn't a HUGE RED FLAG to me. You're dating this guy, but I can't tell from your posts if you're trying to form a V shaped relationship where his other g/f is just your metamour, or if you're trying to form a triad where you are all dating...

Glad that you at least have a timeline set. I'd like to think that Ponytail is able to do the emotional work to get comfortable with you dating other people.... but lemme tell you that after 4.5 years of this with my own NP, it doesn't just magically get better. And I've found that it...

Lots of running around and errands this weekend. We took the ring to the jeweler who originally set the stone. He's an independent jeweler with a local shop, and it was not good. He was difficult to communicate with, but said that he could reduce the size probably by about a half size, which...

Does Maryland still require 75 community service hours to graduate high school? Would it be worth trying to get more "regular" volunteers to work on blessing box stuff so that it's not on you so much? Either your students that you already teach who need service hours, or really and high school...

If it makes you feel any better.... people probably have all sort of ideas about how they THINK something is going to go, before reality happens and they actually live the experience. Ultimately, I think it matters less what Arthur and Brianna wanted in the past, and what their expectations...

Things are chugging along. Sudo and I are probably going to have some discussions on things tonight or tomorrow. Sorta relationship check-in stuff since life has been so insane over the past 2 months, and there have been so many changes. We also have been wanting to talk about D/s stuff since...

Having a meta try and force a friendship on me is a red flag for me and a HUGE relationship killer. Not between myself and a partner, but I mean killer of any potential friendship with that meta. The more someone tries to force a friendship on me, the less I'm likely to want to be their...

I definitely agree with you on this, but I would say that in this case, we've been dancing around it for a while, so even before the fight, I think it was obvious to both of us that we were each feeling it, but both were feeling a bit hesitant to say it. Like "hmmm, is it too soon? Is it just...

So much to write that I don't even possibly know where to begin. Sudo proposed! He's been working on it for weeks, and apparently I fucked up his plans by coming down with strep when he wanted to propose (though there was some delay with the ring so it wasn't really ready anyway). But there...

Things seem to have calmed down and pretty much gotten back to normal.... except that last week on Thurs I left work early knowing that I for SURE had a fever, and body aches all over. Was figuring maybe I had the flu, so I went to urgent care. Well 4 hours later, I finally came out with a...

So, we cancelled our discussion group last night to have some emergency conversations since we were both really unhappy with things. We'll be ok, but communication has been shit recently, and our expectations have been totally mismatched. I was feeling like I was very intentionally splitting...

The emotional Rollercoaster continues. Had a great overnight tip to NYC with Echo that I'm currently on a bus home from. He was going up for a work conference and invited me to join him, so I did. Sudo is not handling things well though and something has to change. When I get home I'll be...

Honestly? A no contact period for however long it takes. As you are seeing.... the constant exposure to Ponytail during this period of just talking and seeing if things can work out is keeping the wounds open and fresh. You can't heal when you're always around each other, talking, interacting...

If you really don't want to be a parent, then living with someone who is or wants to be a parent is never going to work unless one of you changes your mind. Because either the person wanting to be a parent is going to have to cave and not have kids to appease the other, or the person not...

SUDO IS HOME!! Granted, he leaves again on Tues morning for the next trip... but it's at least nice to have him back home for a bit. Sadly, he has plenty of work to do, but we're still going to relax tonight and snuggle. And we're going to a game night at Metal's house tomorrow night. Outside...

Sooo, my thoughts on this are 2 fold.... 1, I agree that you probably need to have a boundary that if SirGawain ever DOES cancel on you because she demands it, then be done with him, and feel free to let him know that's where you stand. Cause that's some bullshit right there. As for the rude...

Something I haven't seen brought up yet in either of your threads.... why do you even know when the last time was that he had sex with his other partner or if he had sex with her before you that day? This information clearly bothers you, so why is he sharing it with you and why aren't you...

Things continue to be pretty great overall. Sudo left this morning for a work trip and will be back at like 1AM on Thurs. Since this is also a meeting that RCT works, I basically have this huge house to myself for a few days. Well, me, 2 cats, a dog, and a snake. lol. This past weekend was...

I think part of the problem here is that you don't *think* he's that invested in you.... but as you said, you're struggling to read him. So it sounds like you really don't even know. I think the first convo you need to have is "hey, I'm feeling like you're still sorta not that into me, or just...

Soooo, my opinion here is that if he's allowed to have more than 1 partner, then so are you. So While I think that it's worth having a discussion so that you can tell him that your needs aren't being met and you want more physical affection, and if he can't provide it then you plan to seek some...