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Welcome, you’ve found a good safe place to land here. I’ve never had poly dynamics that involved children so I really can’t speak to that. I do understand the grief aspect as I lost my husband in 2021. Currently I’m not poly in the sexual sense. I’m only having sex with one partner, but I...

Welcome, this is a great place to be.

Welcome. I’m sorry you’re having trouble navigating this crazy world of polyamory. It’s good that you owned up to the fact that you were dishonest. Just realize that going forward things will never be the same. Trust is one of the most important things in a polyamorous relationship and...

Welcome again, my messages tend to be short. You’ve already gotten great advice from the regulars. I just want you to remember that YOU MATTER. Unfortunately you can’t live your life for someone else and be fulfilled in that case. At least in my life polyamory has always gone both ways. I...

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I haven’t read all the advice in the thread given (but I’m sure you’ve gotten good tips). Mine will be quick. Communication is key. Watch out for the green-eyed monster called jealousy and deal with it directly. Finally, carve out one-on-one time with each other, such as a regular date night.

I was in a V type relationship for over 20 years with us all living together most of the time. Try to prepare as much as you can legally and financially beforehand. You always find hiccups along the way. We all kept separate finances which was mainly my requirement because of a disastrous...

I have a few things in common with you that I found interesting. I became disabled when I was 45. I’d had back surgeries up until that point but my mind finally realized that I couldn’t keep up with the work pace I’d been used to for most of my life. So, something had to give. I was lucky to...

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I love this reply. I usually fail to see the positives in a situation and wind up pulling myself down in the process. I’m an older woman who used to be considerably plus sized. I never had trouble finding dates when younger and larger. I lament that it took me until my mid 50’s to fit my big...

I so haven’t been in the mood for Christmas until this weekend. I’ve had a wonderful time with Kel’s family. We had a party at his oldest sister’s house on Saturday. Anytime there’s little ones it really makes it special. Today we are spending the evening with his younger sister then going...

The last five hears or so of my marriage my husband was unable to have sex due to his heart function. Although our marriage had been open for many years prior I still grieved the loss of intimacy. I’m glad you are seeing a therapist and you’re able to come up with a family plan that can help...

I was pretty lucky in the parents department, but I do think that a few “Daddy issues” led me into my first (doomed to fail) marriage. I thought that all men had nasty temperaments, and I had no idea about good communication in a marriage. Luckily I had a great man the second time around. I...

That makes sense. You’re not into a woman who is too top heavy or has a lot of junk in the trunk. You like a more hourglass figure, and from a woman’s perspective, I find that nice. I think that eyes have a lot to do with initial attraction, just because you can communicate so much with a long...

You have a keeper there. My late husband was never that articulate. He did tell people that I had wonderful boobs, and made a lot more money than he did (not sure how both of those things were equal in his mind). I don’t know about seeing my "soul," but he did tell his mom that I was “the...

I agree. I’m very much an eye person.

Yes, curvy assholes exist, as long as there is a mouth attached to the body lol. It seems that as a guy ages, he appreciates a more full-bodied woman. Obviously I was referring more to the initial attraction. Then personality, compatibility and chemistry come into play after that. I’ve met men...

Welcome, Everyone here is super nice. Poly can get confusing at times, so it’s great to have a group to bounce things off of.