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The months have flown by since I last blogged in this journal. Not only did I get a dog of my own, after all, in mid-October - she's six months old already - but December came around faster than anticipated, as these things tend to do. ...Which means my trip to America to see my partners has...

As someone who was fascinated with older men as a young teenager, and who moved in with and got engaged to my (same age) boyfriend at age 19, I want to second THIS: When I began dating, I dropped out of college... moved in with my second boyfriend... married my third boyfriend at age 25 and...

I'm not going to say you "messed up", but here are the parts where I believe you weren't/aren't thinking clearly or logically: So you've been considering polyamory for yourself for a *few years* and the basic poly paradigm makes sense to you. You say you feel/felt it was a *need* and...

Hmmm, I am very introverted - yet I've managed to maintain a handful of close friendships with people I've known for many years, decades in some instances. The people I speak of are and have never been lovers, but good, platonic friends. We are not necessarily *always* in touch, but when we do...

I haven't been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, but I do have a bunch of physical and mental health issues that preclude me from getting a restful night's sleep most nights. For this reason, I've pretty much always slept alone - even during my long-term marriage to Red. When I move in with my...

I've heard rare tales of partners being "demoted" and it working out. But the way I see it is... it will only work if YOU (I mean, partner A) can accept being demoted in all areas (emotionally, time spent together, no longer getting *all* their needs met by their spouse) and no longer living...

Judging by the wording of the OP and the responses above, I don't think I will take this survey. Like Dagferi, I am in *two*, equally committed relationships with my co-primary partners. I also do not consider myself involved in any particular "lifestyle", nor do I believe polyamory is my...

Lucille, I'm glad you decided to post on this forum. The support, opinions and advice of people here has certainly helped me a lot. Mid-way through last year, my own confusion, insecurity and jealousy surrounding my experience of polyamory led to a breakdown and depression, which eventually...

I'm sorry things didn't go the way you'd hoped with George. If anything has been learnt by this experience, it's probably that you now know yourself even better than before, especially regarding how you prefer to conduct relationships, moving forward.

Yeah, in most of my long-term relationships the NRE phase lasted somewhere between six months to eighteen months or so, then slowly settled into a calmer, more "mature" love. With Jester, my NRE lasted way longer and at times veered into that almost-disturbing "limerence" category you...

First of all, what was the reason for you and your fiancée deciding to uproot and move to Florida? I ask, because it might provide an important clue as to her mindset and the state of your relationship. I notice you've been together three years. NRE usually lasts somewhere between 6months and...

MsEmotional, you have had a lot going on in your life over the past year or two: opening up your marriage; becoming involved with Ponytail; dealing with the fall-out of telling your in-laws about your poly status; dealing with Glasses' other relationship/s; a pregnancy and miscarriage; coming...

The other posters, above, have some great advice. If I were you, I'd listen... especially in regards to the idea that adding more people to a troubled marriage is almost always a risky endeavour. For a relationship that is already experiencing difficulties, the added stress/friction...

In any case, IF you decide to stay with your wife, I wouldn't agree to move anywhere. You cannot stop HER from moving. Then I guess it's just waiting for the NRE to pass - if it does - and seeing if the situation settles down. Once they've had a few arguments and dealt with "real world"...

[ Same here, uncertain. In my previous long-term (albeit, mono) relationships, I had always been very independent, as opposed to co-dependent, and was never the jealous type. I've always had a good sense of my "self" and my own worth. In my first serious relationship, it was my boyfriend...

Intentionally or not, I feel you were "suckered into" this potential polyamorous relationship either by deliberate dishonesty or gross disingenuity on the part of your current love interest. You've known her a long time. You already knew she is, or has been, poly. So far, both of you had...

Yup, that's me. Thank you, Mags. All of the above goes for me also. I'm not a particularly touchy-feely person under normal circumstances, however I AM human and do get cravings for touch/contact, and do enjoy a healthy/normal (whatever that is) sex drive... so I'm missing this due to the...

Gunnar, the reason I initially wondered if this were a fantasy/story - as have others on the forum after me, although I can't speak for their reasons - is because of your own use of language when describing the situation. Your words choices are quite hyperbolic/exaggerated: you alternately...

Oh, I am absolutely aware, Jane. In fact, I am in a similar situation to the aforementioned posters on this forum. After I separated from my legal husband, Red, and became involved with Jester, he asked me to marry him and we were engaged. I wear his ring. I then became involved with Boho and...

I don't believe you're missing anything obvious. I think you've nailed your reasons for the apprehensive/negative reaction, above. ^ I also concur wholeheartedly with the above insights.