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One can RESPECT another person's right to hold different beliefs. However, in the case of intimate relationships, if one partner's fundamental world view differs markedly from the other's --- say, you're a left-leaning liberal who doesn't believe there is any place for racism and sexism in...

Appleseed, my view is somewhat different to the rest of the respondents here. I'd say: IF you're UN-sure if your online friend actually has any romantic or sexual interest towards you, then you might want to establish whether having a relationship with you is even something she WANTS before...

Forgive me if I'm assuming anything that's not factual here, but you say you've been with this man for 13 years, during which time he's cheated "too many times to count" - yet you've only been married 6 years. By my calculations, that means he probably cheated on you a number of times before...

FWIW... This line of "reasoning" (really, overwhelming emotion, with a smidge of empathy for my partner thrown in) was the reason I recently ended things with my partner Jester, or rather, what amounted to taking an extended break from the relationship --- i.e. because I recognised *I* could...

I was wondering the same thing. And yeah, just playing "devil's advocate" here, assuming everything MM says is true to the letter. It just seems rather convenient that someone who was a self-proclaimed highly sexual "lesbian agnostic" only half a year ago or so, has managed to find a...

Hi, BelleRose. I remember your situation from your first OP. It seems the situation has gone downhill fast. I've been in a similar situation, though not the same. In my case, I am the hinge in a "V" between Jester (M) and Boho (F). These two used to have a FWB relationship, but broke it off...

By your own admission, MajorMerrick, there is no way to verify the existence of your religion. Be that as it may, I can accept your first post, above, detailing the structure and demographics of your faith. (Not that you need me or anyone else to accept it.) What I can't get my head around is...

Basically, everything KC43 said above. In my view, it is unethical and irresponsible to begin a relationship with someone new and NOT tell them up-front that you're also seeing other people, even if it's "just" a Friends With Benefits situation. It's true that this woman might genuinely...

I get it because I am much the same way. Even though my male partner is monogamous with me, I've been known to go into "melt-down mode" if there is even any hint that he is starting to take a special interest in a female friend or is spending a lot of time with someone who seems like she'd be...

Beautiful! (I can so relate.)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adjustment_disorder As a therapist yourself, DonaldsonBry, you're probably aware of this disorder, and that it usually occurs in reaction to a particular life stressor, major change or trauma. In your wife's case however, she seems to respond in a extremely...

I also don't see why it has to be an "either/or" situation - why do you have to choose between either couple? If you are polyamorous, you ought to be able to date whoever you want, within reason and time constraints. You say you want to try to make it work with you exes - then you could tell...

I've also been known to write erotic fiction in the past, albeit, only "published" in online forums dedicated to such things. As I see it, the act of writing erotic (or any other fiction for that matter) is a completely separate issue from those who'd seek to create a whole other fantasy life...

I'd like to ask you a question about the following statements of yours, RedQ: While it's true you may be polyamorous by nature and just not have realised it until recently... could it also be true that you are an "NRE junkie" to some extent? You admit that your previous mono relationship...

There are a few sects that are self contained communities that allow contact with the outside world. I'm no expert, but The Family International (formerly Children of God) springs to mind, or perhaps an off-shoot of LDS or the like. I had also considered this possibility, right from the...

Firstly, I must point out that the above statements appear to contradict each other. You say your wife has experienced persistent low libido... but when another poster suggested she may be asexual... you say your wife claims she has a high sex drive. :confused: This doesn't make a lot of...

Hi, and welcome. There are a few questions I need to ask about your situation, and some of them might not sound very "nice" or positive at first glance, but I mean them constructively. So, your extremely happy (albeit non-monogamous) marriage unwittingly morphed into a triad when you met a...

There is something "off" about this whole situation. I went back over your old posts, MajorMerrick, and realised: - You've only been in this marital situation/household for around seven months. And yet, SO much has happened during that short time! So many new lovers... sexual hook-ups...

I agree with Opalescent. What gives with you and wife discussing in such detail a potential relationship between you and her own sister --- without even knowing if said sister has the sort of feelings for you that would even warrant such a discussion in the first place?? I still believe your...