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I was also very insistent on this point, that I wasn’t pointing fingers or blaming. I just wanted to explore what would work for both of us.

Well, we had our first conversation about this last night! I think it went alright. I asked a lot of the questions Kevin and GG mentioned. It went sort of how I expected but I felt like I made a better point to not just accept brushed off answers. She said the was willing to go to counseling to...

Thanks again for all the encouragement and support. I really do appreciate it. I’m really aiming at trying to make this relationship work. This is the person I planned on spending the rest of my life with and there’s so much about our life together that I really do love. That being said, I...

Also, I just want to say thank you to all of you for so strongly emphasizing the importance of sex in a relationship and the fact that I should still have a right to it. I know it sounds silly to say but after struggling with this for this long, I think I really have started to build up some...

This is a great point as well. I've asked before about how I could get her in the mood. The few times I've tried to seriously "woo her" her defensives have gone up pretty quick and she shot my advances down. I pointed this out to her the next time she said "Well, try to get me in the mood" as a...

All of that, honestly. I'm certainly the bread winner for our family. I'm also a rock for her in a lot of ways when she needs help in life. I don't want to imply she couldn't be self-sufficient. I actually think she's a lot stronger and smarter than she sometimes gives herself credit for. We...

I think the feelings you’re talking about certainly sound like you’d be interested in polyamory. I’m not sure how it would work in you’re current situation but if you’re ever in a different situation, it sounds like it’d a least be worth giving a shot.

I dunno. I feel like I’m making her seem pretty bad lol. Putting this all in text and reading more about this stuff, it does feel like we maybe got off on the wrong foot with all this stuff. I think everything’s turned out relatively okay so far but I wonder how much of that is because I have...

Thanks. I’m going to read the links you posted and try and take what you said to heart.

Thanks for the advice. We’ve certainly had sit down convos before but I do think it’s time to do it again and really hammer out how we proceed from here. My biggest fear is that no matter the context of the conversation, I think I know what most of her answers are going to be. When we talk...

Welcome! I’m new here too! It’s nice to meet other new people!

Hello. I also am relatively new to all of this but I am currently in the middle of a situation where someone did just what you’re considering. My wife and I have been married 12 years and we opened up our relationship 2 years ago so she could start dating a woman she developed feelings for...

Another thing to note, I suppose, is that the opening of our relationship was done to conform to her new feelings of intimacy for someone else. I have not personally developed a bond with anyone like that in the time we’ve been together, before being poly or after. As a person, I’m open to the...

Your reply was blunt but it was truly honest and fair. I do appreciate it. Thank you.

Umm, frankly? I’m not sure. I am certainly saddened by that proposition - crushed, even. The thought that my partner and I may have just naturally reached the end of our road is very rough to hear. I hear what y’all are saying and I do question the value of a completely sexless relationship...

While I’m not sure how I feel about the tone of this reply, I think it does really get to my worst fears of the situation. I do worry that one option here is that I’m being manipulated and taken advantage of. I don’t believe that’s the case, I have too much faith in what our relationship means...

Good morning, My wife and I have gone an entire year now, to the day, without having any sex. This has not been a conscious decision on my part and it’s not part of any pre-established relationship dynamic or kink we have. It is also something that I feel effects me negatively. A little...

Good morning! I’ve read some threads here on-and-off for the last month or two and finally decide to join in. I’m Luke. I’ve been married to my wife Laura for 7 years and together with her for 12. We transitioned our relationship to poly a little over 2 years ago when she fell in love with her...