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This was really hard to read. It's what I have thought, and accused, but what is so hard to stomach. And they both seem wounded from it and insisting their actions were from a place of thinking I would want or enjoy it and believing I was all good. They admit zero sexual attention to each other...

It feels to me like disrespect. They wouldn't say that. They would say they thought I was fine and assumed it would be okay. They are both kind generally and giving and supportive. Never cruel or insulting or anything like that. But, they have both broken my trust. I have trust issues with...

Maybe so. I think the fear is not something that could happen though. I'm genuinely not worried about either of them leaving me (closer to the opposite actually, the more I feel like crap about it all, the more I want to not be in any relationships and just retreat). The fear goes more like...

I realize this is an old thread but I think I just couldn't come back to it again for a whole.

Yeah I don't think it will be happening again anytime soon and if it did, I don't think it would be with the two of them. No, we do not all live together. I live with my husband and she lives with her ex-husband (their split had nothing to do with me and he has always, of course, been in the...

I realize this was all a while ago, but I thought I'd update. I appreciate the responses. I really do. I really needed someone else to tell.

Yeah, it was a problem where they thought they were doing it for me (supposedly) and I thought I was doing it for them. I don't think they are asking for any of those things. Your matter of fact tone is great, but I couldn't share it. I was completely freaked out. It felt like... learning a...

Thank you for your reply. Having someone relate actually really helps. I unfortunately feel like the unsettled months you mentioned may be my reality now. I feel like my joy and peace has been completely stolen. Today was so difficult and I think I will find it hard to be trusting and intimate...

I don't know if I'm using the correct terminology here. I have a husband and a girlfriend. My husband is of ten years, girlfriend best friends for many years now, but dating on and off for two. Previously they were never interested in each other. She was a self proclaimed lesbian and he "didn't...

I'm sorry... did you move out because you don't want to be a "daily parent" to your son?

Yes. Because we were friends for years first and our kids love each other and want to be together all the time. Also because sometimes it isn't possible. If he has work the next day for example, she would have to be home at the crack of dawn so that her children were not left alone without...

Eek! Just noticed my double negative. None of the kids have ever* We have plenty of space here for our two young kids (it's big and spacious, despite being a two bedroom) and they have a three bedroom with space for their three young kids. I have no idea what will happen with all of us in the...

Both bedrooms have adjoining bathrooms and my oldest keeps water by her bed and none of the kids have never woken up or come out in the middle of the night. So, I didn't think any of the kids would wake up and walk out, but we put a chair in front of their door temporarily so we would hear them...

Replying to your questions separately-

He actually has done that before, but I don't like to ask him to leave his bed every time she is over. He works hard and our couch is not that comfortable. Also, our youngest still cosleeps, so she is generally sleeping next to him while GF and I are up all night in the living room (mostly...

So, it was a nonissue. My husband would have used the adjoining door but it had been accidentally left locked by someone. He said he "tried to be discreet" and "tried not to interrupt." lol. He heard something but saw nothing. Just like I thought. He was completely unphased. And, it turned...

Being walked in on while having sex... Has this ever been a problem? If so, are you in exclusive relationships or all in a relationship together? How did everyone feel? How did you handle it? Feel free to just answer these questions for your situation because I am curious, but if anyone is...