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Do you have a local poly community? If you do, maybe go to some events and meet people. I have found that the best way to find dates and like-minded folks. If you are looking to date someone separately from your wife, this would also be a good way to go. Also, kitchen table poly might work well...

As someone who has been in a few triads, and is currently in one at the moment, I can say that it is not easy to just find someone new and exchange people. Everyone is different. Everyone comes with their own wants and needs. People are not interchangeable. Now, if you want to find a new person...

I think getting my thought on my whole life on here might be better than just my poly life. Plus it’s way more interesting. Ha So I have taken this week off. Sort of. Completely working remotely and kind of taking a step back from work. I have been feeling so burned out lately and honestly...

I think as long as everyone is on the same page, and everyone feels comfortable, then certain “rules” don’t really matter. I have been on both sides. I go on vacations with my other partners. But I have been told that other partners that I have dated cannot. Their choice. Doesn’t bother me. It...

Busy day today. Homework, haircuts, and planning. I am currently working on my master's. I have been putting off this week's project all week and waited till the last day to turn it in. I am usually a week ahead. It’s been stressful. I turned it in this morning and I am not happy with it. But I...

Today was interesting. I expressed the fact that I would like to get together more (together and or separately) and both partners replied that we are next weekend. I would prefer way more. But they are ok with once or twice a month. It’s fine. Obviously everyone has their own right to decide...

:) Relationship arrangements: complicated. 🤣 Just kidding. We are all involved sexually with each other. I am sexually involved with pip and madmaxx, solo and together at times. They are also sexually involved, but only when we are all together (group sex). They do not care to be involved solo...

Madmaxx has been so very sick the last week weeks so all fun time has been put off. There is not much he can do about being sick (talked to dr and just have to ride it out) so he rest as much as he can. I really cannot wait until he feels more himself. As of right now dates and us three...

The mind is so funny, isn’t it? We never know when it’s being true or just mean. I have this problem (as I am sure most do). I am also an over-thinker and that does not help with negative self-talk. Things that help for me is writing down lists of things I know are true. 1. He loves me 2. He is...

Observations over the last week. When it is my monthly I need to lay low and realize my emotions. They are all over the place and not how I normally feel. Well maybe a little but amplified. One of the worst things I can feel is incompetence. Normally I don’t. Even if I can’t do something I am...

I have a previous blog that I started in 2016 and looked into it but felt so much has changed since then that I am just no longer in that frame of mind. So what all has happened since then. Well, still married. A few years ago I started dating a guy. Dated for maybe a year. Maybe longer. Not...

My husband is 11 years older than pip and I am 8 years older than pip. I can easily pass for her age and we act pretty similar on maturity. The only problems that we have encountered with the age difference is more maturity and the fact that she is single with no children. But we all get along...

Just when I think I have everything figured out it changes again. Madmaxx and pip got into an argument. All intimaticy has stop between the three of us (I think that is a very good thing) But now I get to see the hurt between both of them and the pride they both have to not fix this...

Thank you so much for your advice. You are so right about everything. I do think matter what everyones intentions are it will come out over time. At work I audit things and learn behaviors. I am also working on my psychology degree. So I really should know better. Love, NRE they make things...

With my partner and my partners in the past I can only choose to practice the safe sex with them that feel comfortable with. I cannot dictate what they do. Now if i believe they are having risky sex then I can change my practices. I assume things happen and there is always risk. So testing...

I am sorry. I was not more clear. I meant play dates. Yes I understand that comes off super confusing. She askes when are our next play dates. We schedule them and then the play ensues. Last night I was ill and not up for play. I also never said I was pissed. I was not pissed. My feeling...

And also i want to thank everyone for their advice. It is very much appreciated. I do come here to vent or to see the other side of things. I do not want to think I am always being wronged or the victim. I am neither of those. But I also want it to be pointed out what I can do to makes things...

I would like to clear one thing up. I do not ask for thressomes. She askes for them. Only her. She askes when is our next play date then we all plan the date. Once did I ask for her to come over and me and her ended up having sex. But as far as threesomes go that is her requesting them. If she...

Yes. You are correct. But as far as madmaxx agreeing to everything I say. That is a sometimes but usually no. I ask a lot of questions when we have conversations. Its a big deal to me for someone to tell me what they want. And in our marriage he runs the show. I am his sub.

That is what was pitched to me by her and him. She only wanted play as threesomes, fwb, no relationships. (This is what she tells me) I never pitched anything to her. She has been the driving force in most of this. Now thats not to say I do not want it but I have never put rules on her. As...