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NOt everyone has the desire to write about their life. Perhaps she might be more amenable to a memoir? If she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to. You can't convince her to.

I think that women are more likely to be willing to accept another female in their partnership than men are to accept another man. Men these days are raised to be borderline homophobic, and possessive. I think that tide is shifting, but it's still very prevalent. It's no different than the idea...

You are playing games. MArriage isn't about fairness, or doing what she does to you right back at her. That's not a relationship I'd ever want to be a part of. If you can't be honest with someone, what's the point? That's the one defining characteristic of polyamory that pretty much all of us...

I totally just sent that to one of the most persistent guys I've met on OKC. I've even told him point blank I'm just not interested, but he keeps insisting he can be whatever I want. LOL.

Don't frame this to be about him. Tell him that you need more physical contact. What you are getting isn't enough. If he doesn't tell you what the cause is, that's okay, but he needs to step up and take care of you.

Your impressive length there should really be mentioned to Guinness... since the largest on record is 13.5!

Genuine question: Why are you letting her move back in? I understand supporting her, but pregnancy (if real) is NOT a disability for most people. She has proven herself unworthy of trust, and letting her back in your home is not a good idea. If she moves in, she will remain moved in. It won't...

The good thing to come out of this is clearly you and your husband need to work on your communication. A con artist like her relies on someone not talking to the other; she wouldn't have been able to put doubt in your husband's mind for two months if he was in the habit of talking to you about...

Its definitely not a hierarchy thing. I don't mention relationship stuff in that context. I state point blank "I don't have sex without condoms." And I have no problem with them rejecting it. But I should not have to ARGUE against someone trying to convince me to change s rule I've already...

Is this something you've found to be common? I've had at least two guys try to convince me they don't need condoms; one was being a douchebag, and was drunk; I eventually walked away, because this girl don't play that. The other is an older man who *claims* he has a low sperm count, and...

I think the problem isn't that she has feeling someone else, it's the lying and evasion. That's cheating, not poly. Communication is so important with this stuff. She's broken your trust. You shouldn't just trust her, because she's shown herself to be untrustworthy. You need to talk about...

That's definitely part of it. We had a conversation today about the whole mess. He says he's worried about me getting hurt in the future if my ex decides he doesn't want poly, and wants me to stay with him mono, or breaks up with me. Neither of these things are a concern, and why on earth...

For me, the few forays into BDSM (very light) are very intense for me; it's not something I'm comfortable doing with just anyone. I have to have an exceptional level of trust, and at this point, there's only perhaps two people in this world I'd trust with it. Sex is just sex for me. This is...

Exactly. No one can "steal" a person; that person, the one who made promises and a relationship with you. He can't be taken unless he wants to go, and doesn't value you enough to be honest with you. And if she does? He wasn't worth your time anyway.

YOu can't force anything. THere's no trick, no technique, nothing that can make it happen if it's not going to anyway. Maybe you need time; maybe time won't be enough. I don't think that shutting down is the answer. THat's not fair to you, and not to him, either. Whether he's tired of it or...

IF you don't feel ready... don't. Just tell them the time's not right for you. Originally, my hubby's girlfriend was supposed to be for both of us, but the chemistry just wasn't there for me. I like her, but I'm not attracted to her. So I let them play. Now I'm ready, or about there, and it's...

Someone else entirely. We have ever had any contact of a romantic nor sexual nature without my husband's knowledge. He's my first boyfriend; when I was 15.

You and me both. TO be honest? I think it's more about him being threatened by it. My ex was his friend, too. The worst part is that he knew that this was what I wanted from the beginning. I dunno.

Yeah, I honestly couldn't keep track of who's who in this because of that. Too many people, too much drama, and the short answer... why bother? Too much work for too little return in this case. It's not your responsibility to manage other peoples' relationships.

For me, unprotected sex is absolutely a no-go outside of my husband and I's relationship. We don't use protection with each other, and as a result, out of respect for each other and our safety. If one or the other of us had unprotected sex, we would hands-down use protection with each other...