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As far as others finding a distraction for me (The husband) I didnt ask for it, it was offered almost immediately. I had resigned that I would be alone for the evening to deal with whatever came up on my own. I dont know about all of this. I agree with all the thoughts, ideas, philosophies of...

It is really feeling like all the work is being piled on me. I have tried to challenge a lot of my thoughts and insecurities in this over the past few months. I dont feel he challenges his thoughts at all, or his views or stances, rather it feels like constant frustrations on his part that I'm...

New to town.. And I'm trying to connect. We are part of a Poly meetup group, and there is a potential friend in there right now, but we havent quite gotten to that part. I think that is why GF's husband has reached out to be my "friend".

New to town.. And I'm trying to connect. We are part of a Poly meetup group, and there is a potential friend in there right now, but we havent quite gotten to that part. I think that is why GF's husband has reached out to be my "friend".

It does, except I dont know anyone around here. They decided for us (all 4) to meet for dinner, and then they are going to a park nearby while her husband is going to chill with me at the house. (Again her husband and I are just friends) They are more experienced in Poly, a couple years. They...

The husband is coming over just as a friend. My husband is not against this. It was suggested that GF Husband come over, even if my Huabnd went down to her house (So that is not a factor in what they decided) I have made it VERY clear that I'm not interested in trying a quad situation. I've...

So, My husband and I went through the LDR/Quad attempt debacle. I tried to link it here, the thread. Anyhow it didnt end well. We talked and have been working through it, that was just over a month ago. We decided to go ahead and look or be open to partners here in our town. Again...

So I haven't said much. This situation came to a head last night. Not between myself and my husband but between him and his ex-GF. I think it made us both feel better to actually see what I had been suspecting all along was true. He had been trying to maintain just a causal friendship with...

OMG, I wonder if thats how one guy found me? I have a very common name so its not easily searchable. I did do OK Cupid, but disabled it, its been overwhelming for me at the moment.

Just wanted to let you all know were doing fine. Lots of talking, and then a few days of just vegging out playing video games or whatever to find something else to do and take our minds off of things temporarily. But We are doing good, making progress and working on the issues that were...

He and I spent the whole day talking yesterday, from like 7 am until 9 pm. It was all very productive and good. Neither of us wanted to stop talking, so much that even when one of us had to leave the house to pick up kids, we both went to continue talking. I discovered a lot about myself, he...

Its funny that your brought up the "safe word" because guess what we discussed this afternoon? Lol And he has applied it at least once :) Thank you, this does make me feel better, I was starting to feel like Can I do this. The goals I have, I know I can. I saw the benefits of personal growth...

To all of you, I know.. Going through this is actually a bit humbling. I think he has tried to tell me some of these things over the years, but this is the first time I have really needed to dig deep and working on these issues.

I took a lot of your advice to heart, and addressed some of it in the letter I wrote for him this morning. I really do appreciate the advice and observations.

I agree with all of this. Again I agree. I'm trying.. I have realized how unfair I was to judge him on this. I haven't given him enough credit for what he has done. I wrote him a letter this morning, and told him that I will step back from this, so he can handle it how he feels he needs to...

I know, Ive realized that since writing the other post. He opened up more to me last night about it. I realized I was being too hard on him, and not giving him a chance to work through this.

He is still struggling, and feeling guilt. He admitted this morning. I think him admitting that they exchanged I love you's (And I didn't freak out about it) hopefully has made him feel a bit safer about opening up and start healing. He is struggling he said with the fact he does still miss...

Well tonight, I was feeling confident and asked my husband to describe in detail one of the times he and ex-gf were alone together. He was hesitant at first, But I really felt confident in doing this, and told him that If I felt like it was too much I would ask him to stop. We got through the...

No I have to admit your right there and I need to get to the bottom of that. Bad relationships in the past maybe. But I do agree sometimes I jump right to the negative immediately at times. It is something I have been working on, trying to put myself in his place, and realizing it has nothing to...