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Sounds like that divorce scenario where the child has a guilty feeling parent she can run to when the "mean" parent places boundaries or expectations. Was this her? You've known her long enough to know all her flaws. You still love her but that doesn't mean you'll love everything she does. He...

What is the pattern? Lying about where she'll be and with whom? Venting to others about you? Who else does she do this with or is it a pattern only with this fella? Having her bf pressuring her to turn their relationship to monogamous with him would require her to divorce you. He is not a...

I'm speaking of down the line. If she is as bad as she sounds it might become necessary.

Oh wow! Has he at least quashed this prediction for her so she can see how behaving this way is only making things worse? I'm not trying to suggest he lead her to this belief. I'm just wondering if it has been made clear to her that this future where he leaves you and marries her is something...

It sounds to me like a case of attaining sex overrode his misgivings about your poly past. A year in the life really isn't that long of a relationship and some portion of that was you trying to explain your past to him and him not really taking the opportunity to educate himself. He had attained...

That he has a plan for building on an extension to preserve some sense of separateness is encouraging. Still, you two need to present a united front. Otherwise she will just try to weasel him away again. The romantic end of his association with her needs to be done and stay done. She had more...

About the only stumbling block I see is in regards to her discomfort in being aware of you. Of course she IS aware of you, but it speaks of a struggle in accepting that Rider has other partners. I use to arrange nice things for my previous metamour. Flowers he could take credit for giving...

I'd consider leaving too. That he sat on her bad mouthing you for two month, continued unprotected sex with baby making intentions, and then moved her back in the moment she cried knocked up would leave me unable to stomach living under the same roof all the while knowing my income was on the...

Is she saying he's been hearing from her that she loves him more and that he should leave you for two months or has he been sitting on that nugget and just decided to share?

I can't wrap my head around how she thought this would go her way. Amateur con or absolute nutjob I can't tell but I'm glad you got it sorted out. I hope your hearts don't miss her for too long as I can only imagine the feelings that had developed to have you try to integrate in the first place. :(

Oh yes. Definitely some bad hinge work going on his part. The most telling part is that a conversation about why he won't divorce his wife to be with the OP (so unhelpful!). It should be huge blaring tell that the guy who does want his children raised in a divorced household is talking about...

As an example of what I'm trying to point out to you concerning your feelings about their unborn child. Right now my my husband and I have one kid. My other partner takes from this dynamic time that would otherwise go to my husband/kid. As well money I spend during the time I am with him. He...

You talk a lot about wanting to be seen as more an equal to your metamour, having a role in parenting their existing and future children, and feeling betrayed that their family planning (having another child) was done without including you before moving forward. And then you say you try to...

Just let it go?!? No. Ummmm no. Sounds like she's hoping the NRE love sprinkles hold out long enough for he to baby up and have legal claim. Unicorn? More like uniCON artist!

Has she given reasons for her refusal? You could always split all expenses three ways and see how that goes before any baby making. I'd definitely get this financial stuff sorted before the getting pregnant because that will make things harder to untangle if she does prove to just see this...

Socrates said a life unexamined isn't one worth living. I think that's a pretty bold statement but I could see how it could make for a life full of confusion and fear. I can't even begin to guess why you feel the way you do about the things you've shared so its very easy to insensitively tell...

Okay I get it. You don't like penises. I find it odd you can't conceive of anyone being grossed out by S&M sex to the same level as your disgust of male sex parts. But that's you so - whatever. So let's go with necro sex since you insist. I'd need to educate myself on health risks and the...

Animals can't consent and a person using them in a sexual fashion is an implication on their character. They won't be physically infected by the act but that they forced themselves on another living being can indicate a character one might not wish to deal with. I suppose sex with a corpse would...

Your choice to not have your lover touch your penis doesn't address the fact that you see her as a potential grossness sponge should she ever touch one, while not seeing your entire self as gross for being attached to one.

Indeed. It's a frustration of mine because I don't deal with partners who hold these beliefs. It tends to lull me into believing its an old, soon completely discarded misconception. Then a rock somewhere lifts and out it comes rearing its "icky" semen soaked head.....:eek: