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I feel odd not trusting a persons stated wished because gosh she's dealing with lady hormones. She may be grieving but do we remove her agency? And I ask that as someone who has miscarried before.

Is it a breech of trust if you tell someone you will snoop if you feel you're getting lied to and they go ahead and give you their password? This just doesn't make any sense.....I'm not sure of any reason for giving someone your password if not so they have access to your conversations and other...

Thank you for asking this when you did. My BF and I had a serious argument today and upon reading this, I am stunned to realize just how different I behave when in conflict with him from when I am in conflict with my husband. With BF, I can feel hurt and very passionate about my position but I...

What is your wife's typical day like? Who does she banter and vent to about day to day struggles? When and in what manner does she socialize, unwind, just in general get away from the house and kids? How many kids are we talking about here?

You could make a vine of you deleting it against his wishes and keep that even after fighting and (hopefully?) resolving any hard feelings he has about it. Juuust kidding. Are you worried that if he can look on it fondly while you only see a memento of when he hurt you, that he can't be trusted...

Because of her financial situation, moving her in as an additional sex partner can create a really icky dynamic. I am not saying this to suggest it a sex for a roof situation but sometimes people feel that way, feel others might be seeing them that way, more likely to act out poorly. Has this...

I think it makes sense to marry someone you feel has good judgment of character. And its important because someone entering a relationship with a married person shouldn't do with the intent to end their marriage, especially if kids are involved. What's the end goal here? Go for the throat of a...

That hot or not, it is still a complete disregard of who I am other than what I look like so....not a compliment. It feels like a want to remove me as a person and a want to make who I am not matter. It feels like an act of aggression coming from another woman because she should? know what its...

I'm not going to have sex with someone just because my husband might find it hot. If I behaved this way as his wife, wanting to fuck everyone he met, there are plenty on here who would say we were predatory and treating people like objects - yes?

I can recognize someone as attractive on sight. It doesn't mean I want to be intimate with them. I think different actors or musicians (male and female) are attractive but I don't know them so I can't say if I want to have sex with them or not. A person could be the hottest I've ever seen but if...

I don't know if anyone else experiences this but what is up with new partners and their willingness to hop in bed with the OSO of their new crush without having ever met or spoken to them? My husband consistently finds female partners who, at best, might have seen a picture of me and express a...

I don't see a problem with someone 16 dating their SO after their SO turns 18. I DO have a problem with someone 21 or older dating someone under 18. Even with knowing that with varying levels of intelligence, there are people who might be mentally able to cope better than others. That isn't the...

At no point in life do we ever have control over the judgments, misguided or otherwise, people may make about anything. Using what others might think as a way of limiting someone in your life is narcissistic and futile. We also cannot place full responsibility on our partners for the way others...

I totally get why you would feel these fears. I am married and would have some fears of my own in your situation. A shaky ground is never the ideal place for the fragile or new experiences. But what you imagine happening in these interactions you won't be around for, you are imagining worst...

A woman's orgasm being not guaranteed, often our early sex life comes from a different head space than what is more common for men. So she more often starts by gaining the approval and reaction of men. To be made to feel sexy and wanting to have sex based on the reaction and arousal of the man...

Your husband sounds a bit like my mom. If she was seeing someone who liked a particular type of music or books - well that was exactly the kind of music and books she liked too. And if that relationship didn't work out and the next person didn't like those things she'd discard it all and morph...

I don't condone the hiding and lying stuff, but I see you've known your wife a long time and you're married. It is common for people to think of marriage as "two becoming one." It's a nice sentiment. However, it isn't true. You are a separate entity from your wife and she is a separate entity...

This might sound like a cold approach to some but its what worked for me. I was encouraged to get along with and accept a metamour. It was my partner's first longish term relationship. I put in work to accept it and I accomplished what was asked. When problems arose, it made it difficult for me...

Yeah. He has said it isn't the relationship style for him. But it doesn't mean he won't flirt, let you make regretful passes, have regretful sex or watch for you to leave your current relationship to be with him because you know, if you were really happy you wouldn't want him right? :rolleyes...

I'm not going to try to tell you about people being hard wired-mono or poly because I don't believe that. But I am going to tell you that you have to be willing to examine why you feel the way you feel about relationship expectations to have any hope of success at a relationship with this man or...