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That's why I said INJURY prevention and not rape prevention.

I think I read about that same study in Sex Before Dawn. It also found that women had increased blood flow and wetness when viewing any sexual act from things they claimed interest in, to no interest in, and even to those they claimed disgusted them. It was suggested to be somewhat of an auto...

Nothing similar happening for me to project. And you didn't seem only upset with H; the opposite beyond your feelings about getting together for a talk. I'm not telling you off or talking down to you. I'm sad people you care about are treating you poorly and it does tend to offended me when...

Okay let me get this straight. H is your friend and lover. G is your your partner in cohabitation and parenting as well as your lover. G has betrayed you, lied to you, treated your feelings about these events with annoyance but you're only upset with H because she wants all three of you to talk...

I'm not talking about lack of compatibility, i.e., one wanting poly, but their current partner wanting mono. I'm talking about someone wanting and having the option to be with many partners, but presently only having one. It isn't as if they cannot be in that kind of relationship because it is...

Sure, I'll try. We are speaking of someone who is entirely homosexual, rather than somewhere in between on the Kinsey Scale. While a homosexual person is a homosexual person whether they are having sex or not, they do need their sexual partner to be of their own gender to be fulfilled in having...

Hmm... dunno. The person you are describing here sounds very much like this, rather than just a guy practicing polyamory: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001930/ The reason why I've never agreed with poly being on par with sexual orientation is that no one is guaranteed to even...

I think they tend to end differently but not as a rule. I have just noticed that poly people are more likely to maintain a friendship afterwards than monogamous people. Their partners are less likely to find that friendship threatening or poor form. But I've known people who are monogamous and...

Monoamourous, polysexual, however you want to call it. Husband claims there just isn't enough room in his heart left over for another love. I try to see it more as a possibility that just hasn't occurred for either of us but who knows right? Love isn't a science. He wants me to enjoy myself...

Its hard to know how to pick my battles with this because monogamy was never such a struggle for me to begin with. It starts to feel really stupid arguing over this when I could do without an open marriage situation if not for him preferring it. But I also end up feeling like we only do this for...

Something I posted about a couple of years ago on page 5, post # 42 of this thread has become an issue again. http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3648 After holding my ground about M needing to work on his communication skills he has decided to become a man of action on the matter...

I wonder how much of it is due to the partner you see the least is usually with you when time has been set aside rather than you daily grind? Your choices usually impact them less allowing them to be more accepting of them. And maybe they can be more patient to the ups and downs of your emotions...

Barf. The article suggests monogamy to be a strain only to men. Female sexuality? Whats to talk about? :rolleyes: Women aren't sexual. It left me wondering if the author purposefully didn't explore the subject or if he doesn't realize his own blind spot. I smell a string of sexually...

For your generosity to be taken advantage of by this guy, you have to first think you are offering him something that is yours to give and wouldn't be available to him without your offer. In other words you have to think of your GF as a belonging you possess that can be lent out or denied...

Even in situations where people have generally healthy self esteems, insecurities will pop up eventually. Jealousy will happen eventually. There just isn't much of a chance for everyone in a triad (or more-ad) to feel equally enamored and invested as the others all the time. It isn't realistic...

I'd call that a personal issue rather than an issue with marriage because if the people involved in the marriage don't have a mind to own each other, they just won't married or not. I've had a BF who tried to think of our non married relationship in those terms so it clearly isn't a marriage...

Marriage use to be about the exchange of property between a father and the man he chose to marry his daughter to; sure I get that its part of history right up there with owning slaves and human sacrifice. But it isn't about that now. Not to that vast majority of people. Marriage has evolved...

Are you sure this is a triad? Because how would taking a break ruin something beautiful for THEM only? If its not working, its not working for all of you. Why are they deciding whether or not this triad continues or takes a break? Why isn't this a three party discussion? Because if this is...

I was speaking of what MeeraReed posted. Your husband has GF issues and you don't like her. He waffles over what to do about his relationship with her. Perhaps you've gotten to a point on that subject where you don't respect his choices? Maybe you've spoken your mind about it and he chose to...

I know people are not perfect. I know they make mistakes in all ways including with their judgement. I know that even before they make whatever mistakes they are bound to make. I don't only care for the people in my life when they take my advise and take that care away when they don't. If I can...