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A couple of things here: Monkey's opinion of you doesn't matter. She's my friend, and I listen to her advice, but I don't often take it when it's concerned with dating. Even if that WERE the case, Monkey's opinion of you is mostly positive, and she thinks you're good for me. She is only...

So, as I left Bluebird's house tonight she fixed me with a look and said "Don't you go getting all angsty in your journal tonight!" So, with that grim warning in mind, prepare for an entry, completely devoid of all angst! So, this whole week I've been on call. That means up at 5 AM each day...

I have spoken to Bluebird about it once or twice. I guess my fear is that I might be perceived as not making enough progress? If I bring it up too often, or feel that way too much...It's human nature to get annoyed at people who don't get better. Ask your friendly neighborhood depressive. I...

Bah, there it is again, NRE. I know it's a thing, but I feel like everyone uses it to explain away all behaviors that happen in the first 6 months sometimes. Am I too dependent on her? I don't know. I guess you'd have to ask her. I do spend a lot of time Ruminating about her and my...

This is probably a good point. But I have an issue with that, that might be a little different. See, because of my bi-polar, I know for a fact that some of my perspectives are warped, and unreal. In the past, I've dealt with some paranoia related to my illness. Because of that, I try to...

Can I ask you a question? Do(or have) any of you suspect(ed) or know(n) that your partner enjoys(ed) an activity with one of their partners more than you? Or that they are more interested, or more "into" it? How do(did) you deal with it? I know some people are just not bothered by that idea...

Bluebird was sick all weekend. :( She started coming down with it Friday evening, and by Saturday morning She was sniffling, blowing her nose constantly, and just feeling miserable. We canceled our picnic plans and instead I sat on the couch and rubbed her legs for her while we watched some...

I think her point isn't so much that the drive would kill me, but rather that we'd get back to my house post 11PM, and I have work the next morning. Not exactly much time for a quality date night, and while she might be in my apartment the next day, I'll be working, it's not exactly quality...

NYCindie is absolutely right. I mean, of course, I'd prefer to pick you up at 5 and have you all night, but I would absolutely not mind coming to get you later in the evening, especially if it meant that you got to spend time with your trivia friends, a thing I know you've been missing, AND you...

Bluebird mentioned that she is stressed because she feels like she doesn't get enough time with Darkknight, and Punkrock feels like he doesn't get enough time with her, and while I'm doing OK with the time allotted to me, I do miss her when she's not around. Time management has become a major...

You hit it right on the head. Several times the last week not only had I not intended to hurt, I wasn't even sure how/what I'd done. It's a very uneasy feeling. That's OK, better times ahead I hope.

(continued) --I have to break here to tell you something that has bearing on the story. So, if you've been reading here or elsewhere, you may know that we haven't been able to have penetrative sex for more than a week due to medical issues on Bluebird's part. That being the case, both of us...

Thank you all for your comments concerning how to best deal with Monkey. Things are changing rapidly there, I hope for the better. She told me the other day "It's OK, I figured it out. She's the girlfriend and she wins. I shouldn't try to compete for time or attention." Which...wasn't...

I would just like to point out that I too am always saying "Hey, this is way too early to talk about this yet, but if we did talk about it, what would it look like?" It's not just that I'm crazy head over heels with NRE and you're having to put the brakes on me. The truth is closer to both of...

This is the source of the one you mentioned before: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlMwc1c0HRQ I had a friend who used to be able to have entire conversations with me, based solely on Simpsons quotes. Yes, he was as nerdy as he sounds. Glad that you had a nice visit with Lotus.

I can't speak for your other guys, but I'm 100% willing to help with this.

Thank you for the suggestions Pinkpig and Dagferi. The drama one is hard for me, because I'm a talker and listener, and shutting people down just feels wrong to me. However, I'm better about choosing when I will listen and when I won't than I used to be. As far as "Don't message me while I'm...

**This is specifically for Bluebird concerning her last post.** My initial instinct is to argue with you about your self-description, but I know that wouldn't help. The best I can tell you is that I find you attractive, for reasons that are all my own, and whether other people find you so...

I appreciate the advice everyone. While I might not be ready to cut Monkey off, just reading all of the suggestions has certainly made me examine my relationship with her. I'm not ready to throw in the towel just yet, as it seems that, even from the comments here, many people think that the...

Your ideas intrigue me, and I'd like to subscribe to your newsletter. I agree 100%. For me, if I liked you enough to be friendly with you before we started having sex, I don't see why we couldn't be friends after. Granted, when that's happened in my life before, there is a time of...