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    Research Project :)

    If you don't think it's appropriate for anyone, or just me, to highly criticize your work: Why did you bother posting it? You think a teacher won't be just as critical of your basic efforts? If it's just a basic project to you I can understand the basic research you did to make this. It's still...
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    Research Project :)

    I'll probably repeat some stuff. Only lists the 3 obvious orientations. Putting Other instead of None of the above would have been better. More so would have been to add a couple more orientations, or an Other with a text box. Current relationship status: anything under separated is not all...
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    Research Project :)

    Reminds me of when I took those silly relationship quizzez when I never had any before. Couldn't finish them without lying. Plus anything that seems like it is being guided a certain way, or where one can guide themselves to the result they want (i.e. "Which element are you?"), isn't all that...
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    How to say "No thanks" when you're poly?

    I had someone say they wanted to meet up somewhere. This wasn't for dating purposes. Day came and went and I felt like a dumbass. I'm still wondering what the fuck could I have done, if anything. That was 5 months ago. It is inevitable I will run into them at some point. I've just been avoiding...
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    How to say "No thanks" when you're poly?

    Whatever you decide just don't ghost/fade.
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    How do I get more time with him when the other (secondary) partner is needier?

    Would like to elaborate with the info slipping. Last time I've seen this type of behavior he is doing, was in high school. A decade ago.
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    How do I get more time with him when the other (secondary) partner is needier?

    Drop them. Honestly if he kept his mouth shut you wouldn't know, but he was so nice to slip in that information. It seems like he was testing you out by saying it just to see what you'd put up with. I bet if you put on the breaks and wanted just a friendship, some bargaining would ensue. If they...
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    Poly in divorce filing?

    Bookmark a lawyer as soon as possible please. Make sure it's one that will rake him over the coals. After what he's said and the way they are all ganging up on you, there are not enough chances in the world to make that right. You are not the bad guy here, they all are.
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    So much for trying to be friends with the ex!

    Well technically you can't tell someone to stop reading something online. They can read it and take info to do with whatever they like, including manipulation use. Seems like you're back in the drama anyways. Just cut yourself off from them. Block them, change your number, locks if need be...
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    Advice Needed: Kids, Catholicism, and more.

    Aside from me thinking that is up in the top 10 senseless reasons for having another kid in general, I have to say don't do it. First you say you want your child to experience having a sibling. Then you say they would like a sibling. Can't have it both ways. -You say you both decided to not...
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    Poly Nightmare

    Leave. From this you've already tried enough. Imo you shouldn't have even bothered after learning the real setup. Seems like she has veto power, and he's trying to keep the peace (like you said) at the expense of you.
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    Being Alone.

    Your internet is most likely better than mine. Free to play MMORPGs are quite the addiction. Be careful with that though, you may find yourself up at all hours of the night and into the day.
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    Ways to let other know you are poly?

    Sounds like Fargo. But I haven't been in North Dakota since primary and middle school. I do know that Minot has pretty much tripled since then as well. If it is Minot that's pretty much hours away from another major city. Iirc 3-ish hours from Grand Forks AFB. I'm in South Dakota, it's much...
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    How to symbolize our relationship...

    Names don't come to mind when I think tattoos. Also not really a kiss of death. There are plenty of things that symbolize whatever people would like. There are also a lot of symbols that have more than one meaning if you do the research (placement etc.).
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    Facilitator or valued triad member?

    We? No matter what she calls it she is a fluffer. There until something better comes along, which in this case is back to the wife. The "disbelief" is merely common sense (to me/imo). I wasn't even thinking 'once a cheater'. Just with the limited information you can only speculate so much, and...
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    Facilitator or valued triad member?

    If you think I'm judging, fine. It's just common sense to me, you're basically a fluffer at this point. - You used the word seem, not that you know from her (specifically) that this is acceptable. Just because something seems fine on the surface doesn't mean it is. Plus you sound like you're...
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    secondary to primary back to secondary

    That's a dick move. I wouldn't let that slide even once. Leave and tell them why.
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    Facilitator or valued triad member?

    If you're hoping for a family unit type deal it's not going to happen. I just do not see it, especially with this background info presented.
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    Making new connections- How do you do it?

    I already searched. And I don't mess with facebook groups much because of them always changing privacy and posting. Also don't feel like having a second facebook altogether just for this on the off chance facebook indirectly outs me on my only profile. I only do second profiles for free...
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    When your country's rules make you consider divorce

    Ever consider trying to go the recurring visa route? We're one of the last two countries that double taxes it's citizens. If they do get naturalized whatever finances held in any other country will have to be counted at tax time. Which usually ends up in accounts being closed in their country of...
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