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I enjoyed this survey. It was fun, I liked the question how often "I had sex for utilitarian reasons (such as burning calories, hoping to get rid of a headache or keeping warm)." Duhhh .. Never And the one that asked how often I thought about sex with strangers I saw. The maximum answer was...

Hi Lucille3, I'm sorry to hear how upset you are and hope you can find a solution from what is clearly a very difficult situation. But firstly you MUST look after yourself first and foremost. If you don't look after yourself you won't be able to look after anyone else or properly deal with the...

I don't keep a count. I will not say what my Angel's figures are, but I would say for me at 57 the number is 25+. I would also say until I was 40 ish, I was mono and then, having been with Angel since I was at school, the number then was 1. It is however what it is.

I agree with this. What he is doing is not fair. He seems to want his cake and to eat it too. He seems to want some nice fuck buddy on tap and you to be waiting back at home with a smile on your face, doing the full "Stand by Your Man" routine. From what you have said, this is hurting you a lot...

Sorry your having problems. You said your wife thought "we can achieve that closeness again (not necessarily with each other) while maintaining boundaries. " What boundaries would you maintain? It certainly won't be physical, intimate, sexual or emotional boundaries and for me everything else...

HI Gunnar. It didn't seem like a story to me. I'm sorry other people used sarcasm. I think there are issues wrapped up there some of which is probably in your mind and because of that you may have used language and expressions that are common fiction or porn parlance to explain how you feel...

Yes have experienced highs and lows but this seems very very different and perhaps out of sync too. But perhaps because there are 3 of us the sync is now different. I agree about the truth bit I suspect you can get into saying things like "miss you" etc that when you are off with a lover really...

If people have followed us they will know that Angel and Wolf have been in a stable romantic relationship for nearly a year and that’s developed from short time together to time away in distant cites (now several times) and nights and days away. They are together every week for two days plus...

Sorry only just saw this, How is it going?

It went really well. :) First day was the worst, but never bad, realised on second day to stop listening to sad/romantic music so basically moved from Country to Rock. Kept myself really busy doing enjoyable productive stuff. When Angel came home evening of 3rd day was really chilled in garden...

First 24hrs done. Felt bit emotional off and on during the day, sort of sad. But did OK, also slept OK, for me, which is never good. Another full day planned. Exchanged a few texts, just chit chat and goodnights etc. Nothing heavy.

Well, they have gone. Helping Angel get ready was a bit surreal, but she looked absolutely lovely going away, I have a written todo list as long as my arm. Boxed set to watch in the evening too. Nighttime will probably be the worst. But feeling confident at the moment.

Music Playing things with strings (guitar, bass, mandolin, banjo) Cooking Football (soccer) Ballroom and Latin Dancing Gardening and Growing vegetables Oh and sex :-)

This does also introduce another interesting issue with rules, that what one person may call a rule (meaning a law or regulation) another may also call a rule but actually consider to be just a guide. This is the old problem of communication seeming to happen but not, and why talking and...

No problem. It depends on your definition of rule. We DO call it our only rule, but also say we have no rules, thats our personal use of language, or the dialect of our relationship I suppose. The dictionary describes Rule as "a. A prescribed guide for conduct or action. b. Laws or...

Its a simple statement of the core values (I believe) we aspire to and in my case guides my thoughts and actions. Sometimes, for example, when we have had discussions over the amount of time Angel will spend with Wolf or a big step, or a mismatch in expectations one of us may say this...

That's exactly what we do and with the same response.

I hadn't responded to this post with view to receiving a critique of our rules, just responding to the OP. We find a no rules relationship works for us. There are no rules about who can do what to whom and when. We find freedom of expression is massively important. In brief our (lack of) rules...

Sometimes this happens to men too! Just because I am in a poly relationship and male does not mean I will automatically have a relationship or sex with anyone. I have experienced one person who did not seem to understand this.

We have agreed only one rule from Day 1, Nobody Gets Hurt. We find a no rules relationship works for us. There are no rules about who can do what to whom and when. We find freedom of expression is massively important. However as one arm of a V, I may be lucky that my partners metamour has...