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I think there’s a blood test or DNA swab 😝🤣🙌

Wouldn’t another important question be how long have they been open, and how many partners did his wife have in that time? There is a possibility that her social life, one that he originally didn’t sign up for, has had its own damaging effects. What exactly is trauma dumping? How does one...

What was the goal, expectation, or purpose of getting into hotwifing? So she could have ok or average sex with guys she sort of knew, graduating up to bad sex with rando guys? Whose idea was this, yours or hers? BULLSHIT Sorry, but it doesn’t track, from my experience. Millions of swingers...

Hi SBE. WELCOME TO THE FORUM. Simple answer, maybe both. How new are you to this dynamic? What’s been the routine in terms of when or how you and your gf get together? Did she explain/discuss the availability parameters, or some deference/permission thing that needs to happen with her dom...

I think the craving is natural and fine, one might even say delicious. But with the hustle of modern life, and the practical realities of that, provide a good barrier or guardrail. Cravings vs actions. Stave off NRE-fueled actions. IMO, this is a much larger issue than having a healthy craving...

Hey Jules. Welcome to the forum. How long have you been married? How old are your kids? Time, attention, energy and money are finite resources and young children make the allocation of that pie smaller without everyone donating to the cause. Are all of other aspects of the...

Hey Mike. I’m assuming you or some configuration of the other partners are married, right? If so, how long? Also, I think geographic location seems to make a difference. Any chance of moving/transferring?

I wasn’t aware of that history. That said, it seems like that’s not something you’ll have to worry about or face. 👍😉 I agree 100%. I don’t get why young poly people want to/need to put themselves through that. Yes, moving in might be the top floor in terms of commitment and security. 😝🤣

I was thinking a mono guy might want or need this escalation for emotional security. Yup, I definitely understand the financial or economics of that. HA 🤣 Toilet repair has never been a “team activity,” in my experience. It's "Hey, there’s an issue in x bathroom's toilet. Thanks." But I get...

Out of fairness https://polyamory.com/threads/context-matters.157562/

Maybe it wasn’t flip-flopping as much as willing to exhaust or try all possibilities. And yes she ran into that issue as well. I think there’s a list of temporary factors that could influence a good mono guy into test drives. And she’s got the battle scars to prove it.

Who needs the nesting/anchor/primary partner status thing, you or Jay? What’s it get anyone besides a title and more entanglement?

You need to read his other thread-- https://polyamory.com/threads/new-here-and-trying.157337/

Hi Amarion and welcome to the forum. To me, it sounds like you wife made out with a guy and decides she poly and off we go and things get tough, you freak out and then close and then "we" start reading the books and articles. After some research and cooling off we start back up. Or was it make...

A few questions, Sierra. How long have you and Kevin been open or poly? How long have you been dating Tyler? Do Kevin and Tyler have other partners? Were you engaged prior to dating Tyler, or did the engagement come after you met? Have you had other ENM/open relationships prior to...

I’ll second this. He's trying to manufacture “special“ to counterbalance being in second place, not engaged to you.

Good to know. I was unaware of the etiquette surrounding someone sharing that information. The nature of my question was, I hope she sought justice. Maybe that particular guy/scumbag had that as his MO or routine. Very sad and very understandable. I think with all the unpleasant to downright...

Hey Dreams. Welcome to the forum. How old are Water and Kayak? Sometimes expectations are colored by the phase in life we are in, and/or the maturity of the individual. IMO, the best way adjust or transition is to recalibrate all expectations, hopes and dreams. You want to buy a house/condo...

Ok, I was getting a sense if the jealousy extended to other partners, as well. And I get the anonymous thing. 👍😉 From the timeline/history I assumed some patterns were set by her. However, NRE is an equal-opportunity player, so better to ask a question than assume. Not to make light of the...

Were all of your wife’s partners poly or partnered with others? I find it interesting that outside the toxic bf, the details of those breakups were never discussed or shared. Did she have emotional outbursts? Is she or was she unrealistically demanding of them? Did NRE fade? When this all...