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Hi and welcome to the forum. How did you and your gf/SO come to the idea of having an open or poly relationship? Specifically whose idea is this, with all the associated trauma and mental issues? How long were you mono together? How long was the planning phase before you decided to open? You...

How do you anticipate that will go ? Or could that add more stress to an already stressful situation?

How old is your child and does he or she know dad has a gf and a half sibling on the way ?

She wants freedom, just doesn’t want to allow you the same freedom.

That seems far-fetched given the circumstances. My next thought is why or how he got that “noticeably“ into her. Did she have fun eating a banana in his office in a short tight skirt, like Sharon Stone, sans panties? Or is some of this story fabricated to get a reaction? Which seems equally crazy.

Could mean a lot of things ….like he’s married and doesn’t want to risk his marriage or like he didn’t want to risk his job tangled in a sexual harassment claim or sexual misconduct claim.

Any idea of what they were discussing, or why he/they felt the need to hug, and hug that close, to involve groin contact? From my experience (and the ladies here can confirm this or call bullshit), office hugs are typically "lean in with upper body shoulder to high chest." Plus, in today’s...

Hi and welcome to the forum How long have you been married and how long has your relationship been open ? Did you both educate yourselves as to what to expect on choosing to open ? Is the gf poly and dating also ?? If so how are we 100% sure your husband is the father ? Has it been...

I'm with Evie on this one, next to Zero. Here’s something you might want to factor in-- many swingers have a rule against kissing because it’s too intimate. I think the kissing or making out hypothetical is just the tip of the hypothetical iceberg(s) . I don’t know which one of your threads had...

Thank you for identifying the “issue“ for me, because I’m so new here. 👍😝 New, novel and misunderstood?? Open marriages seem to have been around for at least 100-150 yrs ,if not longer. IS the nuance of polyamory that difficult to understand? I wasn’t suggesting black or white. I was...

Couple things. I’d suggest you and your wife discuss how to handle any kind of talk with your sons. With that said, the sub-topic in that discussion should be: what would be more damaging, traumatic or problematic-- being caught lying to cover your tracks, or being out about dad having sex with...

Typically, depending on the amount of time they’ve been open, or connections made, it’s more about revoking participation than consent. Kiss “consent“ goodbye after a point, and it becomes a matter of practical reality bowing out or walking away.

As sad it seems right now in the end establishing yourself as poly and building future relationships from a poly frame work / from the ground up will be exponentially easier than trying to convince someone with lots of stored baggage. GOOD LUCK going forward and let us know how it’s going😉👍

Hi and welcome to the forum. Why or how did you decide to open your marriage? What, if any, research did you do individually or as a couple prior to opening? How long have you been married? Do you have children?

After reading the interview to me it looks like a guy trying to salvage something from the all the time, effort and money spent on the initial project. Tinwen why do you think or feel this …he or his film is weird ??

How long have you been feeling this pull towards poly? Besides reading and posting here, what else have you done to educate yourself on changing your relationship dynamic? At this very early stage, I wouldn’t put a ton of stock in any appeasement actions. To me, his heart and most of his mind...

I guess you’re right, still on the merry go round. That is bad news.

Hi again. I'm not sure why you see this as bad news. To me, it sounds like the continuation of the same old stuff… confusing messaging, nothing clear cut. I’ve heard and seen lots of stuff at this point, but I never heard of someone trying to get their spouse/lover off on "their" fantasy. To...

I’m not sure if it’s her illness, or your personalities, or the dynamic that has been built over the yrs, but Sue sounds like she’s in charge and rules the roost. I mean, WTF? After 14 yrs, she can’t just relax and let you have a moment? 14 and half seconds in she has to come piss on it? I don’t...

Agreed those issue will severely make things more complicated for a Plethora of reasons. And I think the timing should make it noteworthy and something to be sharply focused on. The timing and change in mood push this toward the focus. Would it be better to ignore her mental issues / state...