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Latest accountability pod update Here is the latest update on the Franklin Veaux situation. More people have come forward as being abused or mistreated by Veaux. Also the update does a nice job (I think) in explaining the purpose and workings of the accountability pod...

I wish you the best MuffinButton. I think you are trying to do your best in a difficult situation. One thing I wanted to mention to you. I have learned the hard way that it is impossible to make anyone happy. That may seen counter intuitive. Happiness is an internal thing. It's an inside job...

I had the conversation disappear entirely too. It's really discouraging. I think it happens when someone unlikes your profile. But I'm not sure about this. Why is Bella wound up about you being on OKC? Not that it matters. Good luck with the profile. I've found OKC to be mostly meh with...

Go you Reverie! Glad to read it.

I texted Chicago a Happy Metamour Day! She hadn't heard about it before so that was fun.

The reactions by some folks here and elsewhere are why people who have been abused, especially by someone well known in some way, don’t come forward. I am thoroughly tired of this. How about we just believe people unless something further comes out that invites disbelief.

SEASONEDpolyagain, you just blamed Eve Rickert and all the many women coming forward for their own abuse. That’s victim blaming and it’s not ok. I’ve been gaslighted and manipulated by a partner. I am good at setting boundaries. But that didn’t prevent them from reeling me in. Now I have no...

Leetah, kdt, Thank you. It has been really shocking. My friends are all reeling, as am I still. I don't regret not having much contact with Glow after we broke up. I didn't trust her to tell me what I needed to know, even in the context of a friendship. Still I am so sad. She was really...

Dan Savage has this saying about people who are ready to date. He calls it 'being in good working order'. No need to be perfect but have things together enough personally to be able to interact fully with other people. This guy is not in good working order, and I do not mean his cancer...

I learned Glow passed away last night. I am terribly shocked. No indication she was ill.

I am deeply discouraged, I have to admit. But I haven't taken it off as a possibility. It just feels unlikely at this point. I know that reflects my feelings about it rather than an objective reality. I could meet someone tomorrow. I know relationships develop in very unexpected ways with...

I feel like I am always feeling this lack. But really I haven't sat with it in non-judging way, just experiencing it. I will try that. I also haven't tried affirmations before. I tend to discount them personally although I know they work for many people. However, I think the time has come to try...

Lol! A thread reminiscing about all the former trolls we have lol'ed at would be hilarious.

I've been struggling with this very ingrained idea that if I do not have a primary type partner, then I am a failure in a big part of life. Primary type relationship for me does not necessarily mean living together, or mingling finances but it does mean that we organize our lives together...

I am finally back to work. Yay! Hopefully there will be no new shutdown. I think that is doubtful at this point. I am looking for part-time work though. I do not want to be this vulnerable again. I'm looking for proofreading, editing, and writing work. Things continue to go well with...

It’s really not much of an assumption at all, vinsanity. Focusing on bigger dicks, pleasures he ‘can’t’ provide and hearing all the details is pretty much a version of hotwifing and cuckolding. I too read the OP’s posts as along this lines. Fetlife would be a good resource. I can only echo the...

My job is highly specialized and limited to some very specific kinds of organizations. Also I can't make the money I make anywhere else. So I'm stuck that way. I am thinking of applying of unemployment or looking for a second job. Dog walking maybe. *sigh* I was calling around to see what...

Ugh, just paid some bills. It was extra stressful because of the US federal government shut down. I don't know if I will be able to pay these next month. I've really bought into the mission of my particular agency, and serving the US people in general. That's important to me. But honestly it...

eHarmony won't match people who aren't straight, so the bisexual bit might have been the issue. Also they are Christian fundamentalist owned so pagan is a no go too (although they might not admit that).

Rather a down NYE. Just about everybody I know is sick, recovering from being sick, or dealing with the aftermath of being sick. Including me. I had a stomach flu thing recently. So lots of my friends are having low key NYE at home because of illness. And I'm fed who is furloughed. I am so...