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Im overwhelmedby all the kind words. I feel understood, and heard. And dare I say it... Cared for. Im allowing myselftime to grieve and cry and rant and to consider that there could be a time in the future to let her go and try move on. Im letting my Rock support me and allowing myself to...

Wow spork!! nearly there. You are right in needing to let go of the anger. Do you need to forgive him? No, I don't think there is anything to forgive, you've said you knew he was defunct and in need of "raising". Nothing to forgive there. Do you need to forgive yourself for putting up...

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you :) I'm so grateful I found this forum! I've only had amazing advice and good suggestions as I've started navigating this new phase of my life. I'm still excited about living a poly life one day when both Rock and I are ready.

The angle is to try explain to my husband, and myself, how I can be so affected by a relationship that was short, online about to become real.... I've been a miserable mess since Wonde Woman called it off and he cannot understand how I'm so broken over this. I don't get it either, but I know...

Hehe, excellent point! Okay so my next question then.... In a poly lifestyle, when you are feeling heartbroken, how do you manage that so it doesn't affect your other relationships? And likewise, as a partner of someone feeling so broken and anguished, how do you respond to said miserable...

You make so much sense Spork. And that makes me sad... But it also gives me hope. So thank you (I think. Hehe) So now I have a follow up question, not sure if I must put it here or in a new thread?

Yes, this is really what I'm wondering... Not only master of own self to not fall in love so quickly, but also to manage the ending of a relationship more easily...

Some interesting points of view here. Thanks :)

bargains are awesome - you always feel happier with your purchases when you've gotten a great bargain on them :) Nothing worse than feeling ripped off. And now you have some housewarming gifts from you... to you! :D

That sounds like a great idea indeed!! It should be an exciting adventure, a new Start in your own place! Not a stressful, agonising day filled with people who will irritate you and ruin your day

Sounds like a great weekend! And you seem to be in a much calmer space now too. The move is close, areyou sorting and boxing up stuff yet? The apartment sounds great too!

I'm curious as to whether or not people identified as poly are able to get over a failed relationship sooner than mono people... Or if not get over entirely, at least be able to move on, or consider moving on. My thoughts would be that because I can understand that anyone else in a...

Blech. Definitely not the right way to start a relationship, not even the right way to treat another human being after setting up a meeting.... It's just rude.

I am going to get his input into who he is comfortable with me talking to. Has has made some comments that help me realise he is more concerned that I am talking to others more than I talk to him - and since he is my primary relationship, he wants that to be in all ways. He knows (and...

dramatics and conclusions - that makes sense! Patience and understanding I can give as I'm asking for the same. thank you for the mono perspective!

This post is beautiful! It made so much sense and has given me much to think about. Thank you. Alo, so glad you found your place! Looking forward to the update that tells us you're in your very own place!

This week is much better. I have re-read and thought about the advice given here daily and a lot of it has helped me feel calmer and more able to clearly think things through. I am allowing myself to grieve. I have accepted that her decision is to ignore, but that it doesn't mean I am...

What an insightful article! Thank you for sharing it with me GalaGirl! :) I like the idea of him having input about who he is comfortable with me talking to. I'm trying hard to give him time to come to terms with everything I have thrown at him recently, I think this may help. I also like...

My mono husband is trying really hard to accept my ideas on poly relationships. Sunday night I spent the evening with a close girlfriend, who I have been chatting to about my evolving fluidity and my ideas on poly. She has mostly been supportive although I got the feeling that she was also...

I'm not sure if you covered this earlier in this thread - how long ago did you tell your husband about your desire to live a poly life? I know that every mono partner responds differently to the news. I started a thread asking how long mono partners took to accept this, and the consensus...