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Hey all! Just wanted to give an update for anyone following this thread. Things that helped the most: - Focussing on ME and getting more exercise and meditation in - Regular talk/meeting times (and trying to end on a positive note) - Reaching out to my new metamour (with my partner's consent) -...

Thanks kdt! Yeah here in Canada Trudeau has said everyone should be able to have had their vaccination by end of September so I'm crossing my fingers that means we'll be looking at international travel again by around that time. We will see!

Thanks for hearing me! Appreciate your compassionate replies. Yeah to hear Aus talk he is very committed and has no doubts about us. Mick and I are engaged (more of a symbolic thing, not sure if we'll ever legally marry) and Aus and I have talked about it as well... yesterday he said he bought...

Hey guys! Thank you for your kind advice and comments. I'll admit I've been feeling overwhelmed by the situation and reading Seasoned's comment was triggering so I almost wanted to delete my thread but I also think this is a situation that doesn't get talked about openly and often enough and I...

Hey all! So I have some sex questions. I’m a 36 year old woman in 2 relationships. I’ve been with my nesting partner (we’ll call him Mick) for 7 years (open for 6, poly for 3) and my other partner Aus for 2.5 (LDR - separated by the pandemic). Aus and I have a music project and have always had...

Aw guys thank you for your compassionate replies. It really means a lot to me to have a support network of other poly people cheering me on! I always expect more criticism and am a little afraid to read the comments but you are all so open and sensitive (not that I should be surprised at this...

Hey all! I wanted to send an update to any interested in this thread! So here we are 3 months later. Action steps I have taken that helped: - I "muted" his other music friend/project on instagram (this helped a lot) - Regular journalling almost every morning - Songwriting - Trying to keep...

Guys I can't thank you enough for helping me sort this out! Ahh I love polyam folks. Even just having you all hear me out and being so understanding and compassionate has helped take the weight off quite a bit. I think there's this part of me that keeps telling myself "well you chose this...

Wow I am really impressed with your compassionate and thoughtful responses! Thank you so much for helping me break this down. Yes TDH there is a bond between musical partners that is special and similar to a romantic partnership, thank you for putting that into words. It also takes a lot of...

Thanks Galagirl! Yes, though her age isn’t a big part of my issue I think I’m also grieving a bit because of recently being told I’m peri-menopausal at 36. Also my moods have been more changeable than average because of hormones. Oh man it’s a long story I’m sorry I’m bad at being concise...

Hey all! So I've been in my first poly relationship for 2 years (previously mono but open for 6 years with my nesting partner). I have a strong bond with both my partners and consider them both equals (ie there is no hierarchy). They're both really amazing, sweet, loving guys and very...

Update Hey all! I thought I'd update on this because it's been several months and things have stabilized. My partner handled his breakup very well and has maintained friendship with his former primary. We toured together for 2.5 months and agreed that our status was more like primaries than...

Re: Polyfidelity Thanks for your compassionate replies everyone <3 Thanks kdt - I totally agree and have been trying to follow your great advice. So far so good! Yes FallenAngelina, you are absolutely right. One of the things I love about Poly is that there are many ethical ways to be in...

Hello kind Poly folks! Singer/songwriter. 5 years open +1 year poly with my primary/nesting partner (my fiance). Previously monogamous. Been dating my secondary (we'll call him Ausman) for 10 months (long distance - Australia/Canada) and his primary (5 years) just broke up with him! We’ve...

So just an update, my partner and I have had several open conversations since I last wrote. I’m still reading up as much as I can about poly and really enjoying The Ethical Slut. It’s not been easy, as we have both had fears of losing each other and everything we have built... but at the end of...

Wow, thank you all so much for your wise and considerate replies! This forum is such a blessing - especially after being shamed and judged so harshly in the previous one. I am truly grateful for your insights. Your advice all resonates so much with me and I am pleased to say I have followed...

Hello friends! Sorry in advance for the long post! I am having a difficult time and am hoping this community can offer my some guidance. I have been engaged to my fiancé (BF of 4 years) for just over a year. I am a touring musician and my career has been picking up really heavily lately...