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I do admit to enjoy being present during their sex, but there's more to it than that. Hank and I conspire to introduce new elements of sexual "adventure" to Allie. For example, we encouraged her to pose for nude photos by Hank's photographer friend...and she did. The experience really hyped...

You have some interesting insights...thanks for that. Of course, there is more to our story than I've put down here...isn't there always?

I think Allie insists upon my presence because that makes it "legitimate", that is, she's not having a clandestine affair behind my back. That would violate her moral code, I think. I don't know...she's a dichotomy...wants to be perceived as "straight-laced", but wants to be naughty, too! I'll...

I had to research the "Vixen/Stag" thing...or "Stag/Vixen", as it were...to understand just what that is. And I believe that does define our thing. Hank is my good buddy, and he and I first "conspired" to get Allie into bed with both of us just to find out if she'd actually do it. Afterwards...

I guess I'm just interested in the experience of others who are involved in similar relationships. Allie believes ours is unique and somewhat bizarre; she won't share what we do with anyone, even her most intimate confidants. While she hasn't said so, I think she's sometimes concerned that my...

She just calls him Hank! I should say that our "group sex/threesomes" are technically that, because we're all present...Allie insists on that. Realistically, for the most part, I'm just occupying extra space on the king-size bed; Hank has huge reserves of sexual stamina, and maintains "activity"...

So, your boyfriend is your "former FWB"...does that mean that your relationship with him has escalated to a higher emotional status? Could it be competing with the much longer-term relationship with your partner/husband? Will that create a conflict for you? I think that's one reason my situation...

I can relate, from a different prospective. I'm the husband (44-SWM), my wife (38 SWF); seven years ago, after the birth of our son, she found her libido significantly ramped up. I simply couldn't give her all she wanted, even though it was several times a week. I have a good buddy, SWM, single...

I have a question/comment, but first must ask: Are your "partner" and "husband" one and the same?

I'm also new to this forum, but have been in a poly relationship for several years. My perspective is different from yours, in that I'm the mono spouse, my wife...the hinge...is poly, as is her unmarried partner. We've been in this relationship seven years, and it's worked for us. We're all...

Not exactly sure how to navigate to answer your question re: Allie and Hank communicating outside our get-togethers, but here goes: As far as I know, they have no communication at all. From the beginning, Allie has been adamant about everything being "transparent", including sex. Hank and I do...

Newbie here...just learned the "polyamorous" term! I'll call myself "Jim", my wife "Allie" and our third party "Hank", who is single. Allie and I live in Chicago , and have been married 12 years. Hank used to live here, and now lives in San Francisco, Allie and I have one child, "Sam" who is...