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Bingo. This was my thought as well.

I cannot add anything else to what @GalaGirl Has said, other than to reiterate that it is ok to let yourself off the hook, particuarly with this bit: Wish for you peace. :)

Thank you for the update. :) Honestly, to me this reads as a situation whereby you are comparing yourself to your husband and that is never a good thing. I am not sure about anyone else, but to me the information you have presented suggests that you are comfortable with having just one (maybe...

Bingo!

Another Reddit Refugee™ checking in, I hear ya on that. And to answer your suspicions about the hardliners, it is not merely confined to that sub. I would wager most of the site is like that and I was there, in various forms, for almost 10 years. Agreed. :)

And you shouldn't, imo. Like @kdt26417 has previously stated, picking apart a little bit the WHY to the emotions could be of use. Mind you, you just may be feeling them to be feeling them. Emotions are kinda weird like that. This is what I try to do whenever I have things like that crop up"...

I am so sorry to hear that things are not going very well. In times like these, I try to be kind to myself and others. And above all, try and remember this, even the fiercest storms eventually run out of steam. Mind you, there may be clean up involved, but it can't rain every day. I wish for...

Given the parameters presented thus far, I do not think he is going to, if ever. I also completely agree with you in that this is nothing but her having to jump through ever shifting hoops/goalposts/what have you. And tbh, if I had received texts like that, my ONLY response to that would have...

I agree with @GalaGirl and @Evie. However, I think this is really your answer right here. He can "explore what this means to him" all he wants, but NOT having you as a part of that speaks volumes, imo. Just my two copper.

Hi there! Welcome to the board! I would suggest the Multiamory folks and their podcasts: https://www.multiamory.com/start-here Also The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola. I have found both to be invaluable guides in navigating this way of relationships. HTH! :)

Welcome to the board! :) I would also like to chime in with this podcast: https://www.multiamory.com/start-here. There is also a ton of information there that I have found helpful.

Personally, for what it's worth, I think your wanting to relieve Red from his insecurities is commendable. IMO, if you're actually partners in a relationship, relief of insecurity should be the goal of everyone involved. Oh, and welcome to the board! :)

My DH is absolutely this although I myself am "out of the closet" to a few close friends. And it's really ok if you are like this. There is a TON of information out there and it seems like you are taking it in via a fire hose at times. In addition to @kdt26417's info, I have found this podcast...

Just remember, that being monogamous is ok too. This isn't for everyone and you should not feel either shame or guilt for being mono. I wish for you peace on your journey.

First, I would like to say that I am truly sorry this is happening. @Marcus pretty much nailed all of this. However, I would like to add that if friends and family are doing this, if it is not over poly, it would be over something else. And I mean literally ANYTHING else. It could be your...

Given your past history of "I do what I want", I am not in the least surprised this is your response. Because it's not as if Herpes 2 has any long term effects or anything like like. So, yea. You are entirely correct. What's the big effing deal? /s

Honestly, I would not give up hope just yet. Not sure if this means anything to you, but I was one who thought they would never get married. And come to find out, a month before my 39th birthday, there I was tripping down the aisle to marry my DH. :) And I am sorry to hear of your breakups...

If you are not posting anything to refute the links that I have posted, you are quite literally pulling your OPINION out of the ether. You made a statement with ZERO corroborating evidence. And no, we do not agree on anything in this matter. Full stop.

I am terribly sorry to hear this. I wish for you peace.

Ok, miss me with this. NOWHERE in my posts did I say she was not still a valid and valuable person. ETA: And stick with the topic, which is people's reactions to finding out a potential partner is positive for a sexually transmitted disease/infection/virus. But your adamant insistence on...