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I didn’t mean it to sound like his dynamic with someone else would have anything to do with his dynamic with me. They would operate separately and not influence one another in any way. We aren’t looking for a third and the thought actually repels me. I would just like to be able to get on...

Here’s where I’m at: Do I have a preference for DD/lg monogamy? Does this mean I have to stop that dynamic? Do my partner and I have very different ideas about what the dynamic means? I may well have that preference and I can accept that. I may need to end the dynamic and that thought...

I'm in a poly relationship with my husband of 7years and my Daddy of 1 year. For me Polyamory is an orientation and I've been having wonderful rich relationships with my both partners. My partners date, all is well and when it isn't it doesn't take long for us to recover. Now, my conundrum...

I keep feeling like I should update my blog, there's a big chunk missing from my last post 'til now. I also feel guilty for not participating more in the forum, because while I haven't been at this long, it's been long enough and Ive successfully navigated a lot A LOT so I have some thoughts to...

I just re-read my blog. I'm so glad I have it here. I also want to archive it somewhere on my PC. I want to tie up some loose ends in my tales. Dean: I just spent a great deal of time talking about him and Mary. I'll update you on him and I soon. my three girls: the kiddos, this requires a...

One last tidbit about Mary and then that's over: The same day I wrote my last post, or maybe the next day Dean let me know he was going to Snowfest and Mary was going too. I lost it. I felt like, why ask me how I feel about something if it's going to be completely discarded. I didn't handle...

Why did you "leap up to serve?" I mean, it was her idea, sure. But there's 3 people here. You, Grace or Sir could have made it. It didn't have to automatically be your job. The calendar created is just shared between Sir and I. Yes, he could've made it. Why did I leap to serve? Is that how...

Thank you. This is one of those re-read posts. helping connect the dots.

I was in a long standing relationship with SoulSister that was sexual and then for periods it wasn't. The last 3 years haven't been sexual. In my experience us having sex became no longer good for our friendship or for her relationship with her then husband. We weren't willing to end our...

I appreciate all the responses. Here's where I'm at. Yes, I did consider breaking up with Sir because of this situation he has with Grace. We've only been dating for 3 months now, bonded for sure, but not in so deep that I couldn't see ending things if it were better for me to do so. Or pausing...

I’m really sorry to hear that. On my end things are optimistic. Grace started seeing a therapist, Sir decided and as far as I can tell is maintaining his boundaries. I received a heartfelt long apology from Grace. I decided due to circumstances I would consider things a blank slate. I’m still...

Dean and Mary: Dean dated Mary for a bout 3 weeks, during that time they did sleep together once. Their relationship ended and it was based on actions from all three of us. Her idea of poly was more toward the relationship anarchy model and while both Dean and I understand it, I think I even...

This is essentially where I'm at. I've ended communication with Grace, parallel polyamory it is for now. In order to continue the relationship with Sir I needed to know he was developing his own boundaries and limits with her behavior. I mentioned that while I'm happy helping with...

That’s what I’m looking at in this situation. I’m ok with it. Had a long talk with Sir, heard some things I needed to and I’m not about to throw the baby out with the bath water.

Those posts are very similar to what I’m navigating and honestly I had to stop reading them because all that drama was exhausting me.

I've had luck with any other topic searching, but it was hard to pin this down to a searchable word or phrase. My issues with Grace are that she doesn't care about me at all and the dynamic between Sir and her falls under the abusive umbrella. Manipulation, control, acting out, threatening...

I’m having a hell of a time with Sir’s girlfriend Grace. I’ll spare you the details, but it’s to a point that I may have to end the relationship with Sir because of their unhealthy dynamic. I wanted to read other people’s experiences to help me decide what my limits are, but was having...

Thank you for that. As I was typing up my original post I was thinking I need to practice some kindness. Even though I was doing a great deal of judging myself for my thoughts, there is an air of compassion I think. I hope so! I'm going to practice discarding thoughts that don't align with my...

We haven't spent any time together at all. I have found that I prefer the way I met Mary, at a no pressure no one was even dating at the time beach hang, but I would never require such a meeting out of a metamour. With Grace, from the beginning she needed more space and time before making an...