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Self-reliance. Gratitude. Joy. I've been spending more time alone, or as the only adult around the house. I'm getting used to it a little. It's hardest at night, but I'm still finding things to do with myself. Things I like to do anyways. Read, write, draw, organize my bedroom, complete tasks...

I'm getting better at embracing the uncomfortable feelings. I pinpointed a source of them . I was having trouble with Dean picking back up playing music as a result of dating Mary. I'm happy that he is playing, it's part of who he is and i'm happy for him. I was having trouble with it because...

I had a good week of struggling, which is to be expected sometimes. I was having trouble with Dean dating. We've since been able to talk about things and come up with other ways to handle things. I also got some great advice in a thread here that helped me to put things into perspective. I...

Thank you everyone. Each response felt like a big hug. This community is irreplaceable.

Change is hard, if she's having trouble be patient with her. Remind her that she's awesome and that she has the tools she needs to identify and work through what's bothering her. People say to move at the pace of the slowest partner. I'm finding in my situation that at first Dean was the...

I started this poly journey, I brought it to my husband. I chose this and now that Dean is dating I'm feeling myself withdraw from him. I feel hypocritical. I also feel like we are still heading towards a more fulfilling future. I'm not sure how to handle these thoughts and feelings. I'm feeling...

I'm struggling and I don't want to be.

We are moving towards more privacy about all these things more and more.

I talked to Dean about it after the date. My hesitation to text had a lot to do with respecting his date and him of course. I did end up texting goodnight when I was off to bed and Dean texted me back when he was on his way home from the date hours later. All in all we'll figure out what...

Dean is on a date right now. I'm going to bed. If he were out doing anything else I would text him goodnight. I'm wondering if texting him during his date would be intrusive or rude? I text Sir and a couple other people goodnight when I'm here with Dean. Is there a texting etiquette here? Is...

well that got serious real quick

So mich this. Change is inevitable, it's happening and it my mind it's good. What my husband and I do is just make sure we both keep wanting to move in the same direction. I'm feeling the pain of this change right now, but am trying to use them as an opportunity to learn and see them as...

Dean listened to a podcast about openness in regards to your kids. It had most to do with situations that ended in custody battles between the parents and the grandparents that started with the kids just talking to grandma about mommy's boyfriend. So here's my situation: My mother is insane...

Things are happening and the odds for making mistakes have increased significantly. Dean is dating. Sir is seriously talking about proposing to His long time girlfriend. I knew I was going to face more discomfort. I knew I didn't know how I was going to feel about things until after they...

It's been quite the ride this last cool weeks and I'm discovering all these not so great things about myself that need a good bit of tweaking. Mostly insecurity and lack of patience. The insecurity is a big surprise, but it's causing me to think and connect dots. I may post about it in the...

After I told Canada about Sir he pulled back. After a few days he started communicating as normal, but just now actually Canada pulled back again. Even though we hadn't even met in person there was a connection and severing it twice now hurts. To make it worse Canada was trying to say "you...

For some reason I haven't felt the need to do it. I'm curious for sure, but not sure any answer will be satisfactory. I did reach out one night after a bottle of wine during a hurricane, but got a "yeah we can talk when things normalize" but unless I push it I don't think that will happen. I'm...

We aren't hiding it, but we aren't saying "hey kids, your dad and I are dating and having sex with other people" I do not believe it's shameful. By school at the moment I mean grade school. Old enough...it's not about trust it's about understanding. My young kids happen to be emotionally...

I'm just seeing harmful information being presented. I'm calling bullshit.

It doesn't hurt the first time for everyone, or at all ever for everyone. It's not something to be shrouded in fear. I'm not sure it's helpful to generalize here, or ever.