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I'm not sure this advice is very helpful or accurate.

I had this question and I can tell you what didn't work. It didn't work to try to figure out my ideal and then work back to what I was presented with like I would do if I was buying a car or a house. It's along the same lines of looking for someone to fill a box for you. I thought "oh I'd never...

What were/are your motivations for finding the truth?

As a bisexual woman I can tell you that if I see the word "unicorn" in your dating profile or brought up in conversation I run the other direction. I imagine most self-aware bi women do the same. It's a unicorn, not a horse. lol I'm not saying you can't find a lady to suit both your needs...

Things are always changing for me. I gave myself a chance to recover from BlueEyes, we're at the point now where we can hang and even kiss goodbye and it doesn't have any negative affects for either of us. His perspective has changed regarding expectations of others. It's working. Dean worries...

One of the best things Dean has done for me is giving me the space to have the kind of relationships with others that I want to. That means not having to define relationships, or fit them into boxes. It's great for me because I have relationships that don't fit/won't fit into those boxes and he...

In my opinion: This rule and questions of fairness sound like you're sailing troubled waters. More than Two has a take on these rules. I encourage you to find their source and then you may find you don't need them at all. Rules may seem like they are protecting you, but end up harming instead...

SoulSister and I decided to live together for a time out of necessity. My husband passed, she divorced hers (he was abusive). I had one kid, she had two and neither of us could've survived on our own, emotionally, financially, mentally. I was living in a duplex renting space from my grandparents...

I have a boyfriend now!

Ravenscroft, For me it comes down to one simple thing: protecting my children from heartache. Losing people hurts. I'm not trying to hobble them by not letting them experiencing loss (they've experienced more than their fair share already), but I will always try to minimize their suffering...

I get in these moods where I know I'm motivated by fear of being hurt by heartbreak. It shows up as a need for reassurance, that need makes me feel "needy" and I hate it. I'm a strong independent woman dammit, I don't "need" anything from anyone- except that I do, I need hugs and someone to...

That's beautiful. :D

The real question here is where can I get that brand of yogurt? lol

I can tell you what my situation is: I have three girls, 9,4,2. I have a long term relationship with SoulSister, who before meeting Dean (my husband) I shared a home with as a way for us to take care of one another and our collective girls. ( she had two at the time, I had 1) SoulSister and I...

My husband and I have been reading the books together: More Than Two, Ethical Slut, forum posts, and listening to polyamory weekly podcasts. We still talk about polyamory a lot, but in the beginning it started to dominate our discussions. Having shared reading to talk about made the discussions...

The Dating Game I've been feeling very good lately. I'm very happy investing in the relationships that I have and in the spirt of that I've been waiting to organize my garden (a la More than Two) here: There are plants that need daily tending and those I want to tend daily: Dean, my three...

You know you're poly when... You're laying in bed chatting with your person in Canada, your husband is laying next to you listening to OK Conputer using his fancy noise cancelling headphones. You have to interrupt him because the story Canada just told you is too good not to share and you all...

For as smart as I am I sure miss the forest for the trees a lot. I know I have generalized anxiety, but I didn't know it was expressing with these racing thoughts. I read your post and was like "duh" and super embarrassed. At least now I can just see them for what they are and let them go...

The only thing I'd say to that is are you truly happy and having fun as a result ? Were you in the perfect path zone ? Yes I am truly happy and having fun. I actually cried hard Sunday night out of happiness. It was amazingly ridiculous. I've never felt so loved in all my life. Dean sees...

I've been seeing one for years, it was really something to tell her about our new (ish) lifestyle :)