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Leave that man. He is not a protector, not a friend. He showed you who he is, which he is someone who will ignore your need for safety if it serves to gratify himself sexually. Leave him, then think long and hard about why you would agree to do something that goes against your own judgment just...

The best friend has stated he isn't interested in poly, even if he does have a little crush on you. And if things go sideways, you could cost your partner his best friend. Probably best to let this one go.

Instead of watching porn daily and getting off on women who are there because they need money, why not invest that energy in getting off with your "hot-enough-for-onlyfans" wife of many years and the mother of your many children? She's birthed your many children and become less sensitive...

Breakups always hurt, but some people take breakups harder than others. This is a great time to delve into yourself, figure out why a breakup has the power to devastate you. Look into your childhood, your past relationships, and how you perceive yourself and the world. All this affects how you...

It's generally accepted that, in mono r'ships, when one partner says "I think we should see other people," it means they're just not that into you. I've never heard of anyone using that as a way to try to get someone to step up and put a ring on it.

Honestly? She sounds manipulative and like she walks all over you. Is this truly what you want in a spouse? I know you're worried about finding someone else you are compatible with, but I'm going to argue that you are not particularly compatible with this person, who wants to carry on...

I do not like the level of coercion he's putting on you. You are there to be a PARTNER. A wife is not a sex/kink distributor. If you don't enjoy doing whatever it is he is asking you to do, you should not do it. Period. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for both partners, not just the male. If...

Sounds like husband wants to "monkey-branch" away from his long-term marriage (with children) straight into an exciting new relationship. He's awful quick to chose her, isn't he? If I were you, I'd give some real thought to how the marriage was going before new girlfriend entered the picture...

No, don't contact him/them again. They're a mess. They can't offer you anything but more confusion and chaos. Hold your head up high and walk away. Taking someone back after they have broken up with you more than once, proving he isn't loyal to you, erodes not just your trust, but your...

So your husband wants you to raise the children and do the housework with very little help from him, and he doesn't want to go on lunch dates with you, and he prefers sex with someone else (who he can get rough with), and he thinks you should stop "complaining." The other woman doesn't live...

Hmmmm, I think this can become a chicken/egg situation. Even someone who is not normally the clingy, needy, desperate type may become that way when a previously attentive partner turns towards someone new. In which case, polyamory absolutely IS the problem. It's just not the right relationship...

There's very little incentive for a mono person to stay in a poly-mono r'ship, unless she or he enjoys having a lot of alone time, or has a career/family/hobby/social life that takes up a great deal of bandwidth, or perhaps they genuinely prefer to outsource sex or support for their partner to...

Looking at your username, you identify as a wife and mother. You've stated that, through years of your marriage (and you married very young) you've lost your sense of self, your libido, and suffer from mental health issues. You've done things that hurt you (threesome) to try to get him off. It's...

For me, because I tend to feel poly during times of life-transitions, my poly/open r'ships have historically maxed out around 2-and-a-half to 3 years. After the NRE winds down, I start to want something more than I feel poly/open offers. Or, their NRE for me winds down, their attention shifts to...

I'm gonna answer this, having been in a few long-term r'ships with gay women, having been both poly and mono, and because I spent most of my adulthood very active in LGBTQ society. Most of the lesbians I've ever known were monogamous. I've crossed very, very few gay women willing to entertain...

This thread gives me the ick. Are men seriously encouraging another man to take his girlfriend to a poly-friendly counselor because he wants her to cuck him and her "shyness really is holding us back"?! This is HIS kink. It is not HERS. He has talked to her about it to her and her response is...

It *can* work, if the mono partner really enjoys their alone time, or has a very busy, fulfilling social life/family life/work life or hobbies that take up a lot of bandwidth. But if you're someone who enjoys a lot of togetherness--and it is perfectly ok to want that, a parallel poly or R.A...

Oof, that's tough, sorry that happened to you. Is this marriage open for you as well, or only your husband? May I ask, is an open marriage something you truly wanted, as in you are joyful about it, or are you "poly under duress," doing it because you don't want to "lose" him? You've got a child...

So not having as much spontaneous desire (the male version of horny) is the same as having a lower sex drive? So if a woman isn't interested in fucking men who aren't particularly attractive, or if she's not down to fuck attractive men who aren't offering a relationship, or if she's not fucking...

I recommend the book Come As You Are about female sexuality. It ought to be required reading for anyone who wants sex with a woman. Women DO want sex (some more than others, of course.) But generally, we want it with people we can fully trust (not randos.) We want it when our mind can focus on...