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Greetings MLT2018, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. Every poly relationship is unique, just as the people in the relationship are unique. What you need to do is study and read up on poly and how it has been for various people. Then you need to tell your husband you...

12:13 p.m., Saturday the 14th It pleases me to announce that we ate out yesterday, at an Indian place, I think it's called Taj Mahal, we had the buffet. The food and the service were both really good. Today Brother-Husband, Snowbunny, and Stan did go on a road trip, they are out right now. I...

1:47 p.m., Friday the 13th We had pierogi, potato/cheese pierogi from the store, they were quite good. We also had asparagus, I'm not so excited about that but I know we needed a vegetable (besides potatoes). We're doing something with Stan tomorrow, BH and SB might do a road trip with him, but...

Hello klb223, Mono/poly marriages do exist, and people do make it work. It takes a lot of compromise, communication, and most of all, love. Your husband needs to tend to your needs, and not get all caught up in some new relationship with someone else. Don't rush into anything, invest some time...

12:35 p.m., Thursday the 12th Last night for dinner we had some kind of sausage, seasoned potato chunks from the oven, and beet chunks. The beets were leftover from the salad we had on Tuesday. Anyway, that was decent if not overly exciting. Not much going on today, I don't know what we'll have...

Hello FeralGoblin96, It doesn't sound like A is being very nice to you, and either he was lying to you for the past six years, or he is lying to you now. I know NRE is a powerful drug, but A is really carrying things too far. I'm sure you don't want to think about breaking up, but when a...

2:14 p.m., Wednesday the 11th SB just took Ginger to Rally class. While they were away, BH took Eddie on a walk. We ate dinner after they got back, we had salad for dinner (which was fine). The weather has been good lately, although today has a bit of a wind chill. This concludes my riport.

3:36 p.m., Tuesday the 10th Last night we had leftover chili and lentil soup, also there were bagels with a couple of kinds of cream cheese. I had the honey-jalapeño kind. Tonight the dogs have Rally class/practice, we might have TV dinners before they leave. Not much else to tell you at this time.

Hello Samirare, It sounds like he really dropped the poly bomb on you, you weren't expecting at all that he would want another primary, yet, here we are. Sure, it's great to work on your own insecurities, but he also needs to have respect for your boundaries. Do you want to be in a relationship...

Hello mewz, I think when you are setting boundaries, you need to do a kind of self-assessment, where you sit down and imagine various scenarios, and imagine how you would feel if this or that actually happened. Would it be tolerable, or would it be more than you could stand? Would it be...

2:19 p.m., Monday the 9th We had chili out of the slow cooker, with bison and a few different kinds of beans. Stan went home after dinner, then the three of us watched a documentary about John Candy. It was good. Candy sounds like a sweet guy. Not much to riport on otherwise. Next week we have...

11:44 a.m., Sunday the 8th BH, Stan, and I went on a local road trip, in and around Albuquerque. We had brunch at IHOP, I had eggs/bacon/sausage plus pancakes and French toast. Stan had an omelette, it was huge. Today Stan will come over after work, he works at Lowe's (in the electrical...

Hello RoniRigatoni, Sorry things are going bad between you and your wife, I have to say, that married men usually have a harder time finding a poly partner, than do married women. I think you need to tell your wife that you feel like you are being left out and left behind. She needs to know how...

Hello BubbleWandTrouble, I think maybe the best approach here is to group email Bonnie and Clyde so that you have proof that you notified both of them. Don't go into great detail about why you're doing it, just tell them it was good while it lasted but now you are moving on. Jeff sounds like a...

8:12 a.m., Saturday the 7th We aren't leaving as early as I thought we might, so I got to sleep in (til 7:00 a.m. haha). Later today, SB will take the dogs to a Rally competition here in Albuquerque. Not sure when she'll get back (nor when BH and I will get back). Last night for dinner, SB...

3:08 p.m., Friday the 6th SB and I had the spicy lentil soup last night, it was good. BH had I think some kind of a meat-and-gravy dish, as he doesn't normally do spicy. I'll ask him over dinner, if he and Stan will do a road trip tomorrow and if so, can I join and at what time should I be...

Hello questionsabound, You seem to be saying that you do not want open/poly at this time, however it is possible you will be okay with it in the future, as long as you are given enough time to work it out in your head and get used to the idea. And maybe you feel like your wife is rushing you...

2:01 p.m., Thursday the 5th We had pizza from Papa John's, it included garlic butter cups for the crust, it was good. I don't know what we'll have for dinner tonight, I am easy and look forward to something different. Tomorrow looks like something different too, on Saturday SB has a Rally event...

Hello jtrobak, You are not washed up, your wife is talking about a threesome with you included. Your mutual friend is more the person that would limit your participation, your wife doesn't seem to mind it. Poly can be tricky, you need to approach this a little at a time. Regards, Kevin T.