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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    11:23 a.m., Monday the 25th We had pizza last night, from a place we hadn't tried before, it is called Roadrunner Pizza. It was good. BH watched a hockey game, and we didn't do any Justified episodes. Today, BH and SB took the dogs on a walk. They dropped the dogs off here at maybe around 10:00...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    12:04 p.m., Sunday the 24th We checked out some estate sales. At one of them, they were selling two very large speakers for 20 bucks. Everything was half off, so we actually got the speakers for ten bucks. Quite a successful trip, in that sense. We also went to one or two thrift stores, and we...
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    Tips on breaking the news to kids

    Hi Steve, Your kids are probably old enough to know what "nonmonogamy" means, so I suppose that's how to explain it to them, "Your mother and I have decided to practice nonmonogamy. I have a girlfriend, her name is Kaitlyn." I would say this to them with Emma present, so that they can see that...
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    How to be an ethical couple for a triad?

    Hello Beautiful Disaster, Unicorn hunter triads aren't necessarily evil, the point is that they can be very difficult, complicated, and unlikely. There is a tendency for one of the links to fizzle, leaving behind a V where there was a triad. Which actually isn't a terrible outcome, as long as...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    7:29 a.m., Saturday the 23rd Happily, SB got us takeout from Subway yesterday. She got me a tuna sub. Today, we are going on a "local road trip" with Stan, just places around town. We can't afford to drive very far, due to the high prices of gasoline. I assume Stan will come over later today...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    1:39 p.m., Friday the 22nd For dinner last night, SB made us an Oriental dish, it had beef, cabbage, carrots, and some kind of Oriental sauce, possibly among other things. It was decent, but SB said she probably wouldn't make it again unless I or BH was thrilled with it. This is SB's MO; she...
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    At What Point Does ‘We Used To Be Poly’ Stop Being Consent?

    Hello BikerRobbie, Your partner has been playing fast and loose with the negotiations and your theoretical consent. You are not obligated to be okay with that. The fact that your partner didn't tell you what they were up to except by degrees, shows that they realized you might not be...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    10:42 a.m., Thursday the 21st I got up relatively early today, not sure why, I just felt like it. Yesterday, SB and I left to go shopping somewhat later than planned, she got held up at work. After shopping, we went out a second time to get takeout for dinner. BH requested Arby's, and that...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    2:00 p.m., Wednesday the 20th Ginger had a Rally class last night; after SB came back with Ginger, we had Vietnamese takeout for dinner. Also it was SB's birthday, so BH had bought her an ice cream cake for dessert. We all had some. Today, SB and I will go grocery shopping, I'm not sure when...
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    Overcoming years old relationship hiccups

    Hello WatchTheFireworks, We can't dictate our feelings, you can't dictate how you will feel, she can't dictate how she feels. I'm just curious, how much responsibility has she taken for what she did, has she apologized, has she taken steps to restore the broken trust? I just wonder if she feels...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    11:10 a.m., Tuesday the 19th For dinner last night SB made us egg/cheese omelettes, also we had the rest of the leftover ham, and buttered toast with jam. Today I got up earlier than usual as I have a dental cleaning at noon (will leave in about 20 minutes). I think I chipped a tooth, not sure...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    3:02 p.m., Monday the 18th We had various leftovers for the most part, chicken from Golden Pride, also coleslaw and potato salad, and ham. Also we had some lentil soup, I was glad with whatever we had. Stan might come over again this coming Saturday, we will watch various movie clips. For me...
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    New in Western NY

    Greetings Renfencer, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. It sounds like you are just at the beginning of your ENM/poly journey, I hope Polyamory.com can help you along the way. Spend some time reading/posting on our various threads and boards, we will try to help. It's...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    12:05 p.m., Sunday the 17th It turns out BH did go out and do some stuff with Stan. Afterwards, Stan came over for dinner and a visit. SB got us takeout from Golden Pride. And we had the rest of the deviled eggs. I had a lot. There was a hockey game on, so BH and I did not watch anything. In...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    12:46 p.m., Saturday the 16th For dinner last night SB cooked us a ham, also she made deviled eggs (ooohh) and also served pickled beets. After dinner, BH and I watched a Justified episode. I don't know what the plan is for tonight. BH has gone out somewhere, possibly to run errands, or maybe...
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    Hello

    Greetings JW123, Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc. I see that you are just now starting on your poly journey, I hope Polyamory.com can be a part of that. It sounds like you have had a years-long mono/poly arrangement with your wife, and now you are considering a...
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    Struggling with navigating relationship boundaries after betrayal/polybombing and opposing viewpoints on what is "controlling" or "reasonable"

    Hello thestrugglebus, Polyamory isn't right for everyone, you have a right to position yourself against it. The sad truth is, you and your partner may have reached a point of incompatibility. She has realized that she is fundamentally poly, you have known that you are fundamentally opposed to...
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    Reconnection or Transition "Rituals"

    Hi Gardener, It sounds like you have a really good reconnection ritual, one that works for you and Bird. It helps that you both formulated the ritual together, and she definitely consents. I do not have any of those rituals, but Snowbunny and I do have things we do that are special just for us...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    2:40 p.m., Friday the 15th Things improved for me as yesterday went on, SB took me to get takeout at our local Chipotle, one of my favorite places, and we stopped at Kelly Liquor on the way back, another of my favorite places, and I picked out a Rumple Minze for me. Which I'm having some right...
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    Wife wants meta to move in with us, feeling conflicted.

    Hello James365, This might be a good time to do a pros-and-cons list, write down what you'd like about your meta moving in (in the left column), and what you wouldn't like (in the right column). This way you might have a better idea of whether you are for or against your meta moving in, see...
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