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The man is originally from Bali, where he was raised until he was four. His parents died and he was moved to Canada by his older siblings. He is the youngest of ten children. His parents got married because his mother was under threat of being raped by Japanese soldiers when they raided and...

Well, here goes again. Lost a post I spent two hours writing. How frustrating. There's been a story of lessons since I last wrote, the story of my crush that has turned into love. No, we aren't together. He's still with his wife. We didn't create a poly relationship. Nothing much has changed...

https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/on-light-and-shadow-polyamorys-metoo-411e0275c2fe Sad. So sad.

I find myself feeling a crush! Oh my goodness, I didn't think it was possible for me anymore. Time does, in fact, heal! The thing is, he's married and DEFINITELY not available. I don't even think he has that spark feeling for me. It doesn't matter though, it's been a crush that comes and goes...

Spork, Thanks for your input! Totally helpful. "The hard part here is...how exactly do you prevent your team from letting their own personal biases as individuals come into play? It can be incredibly hard to stay "true-neutral." Everyone has opinions, and sometimes you would take a side in a...

The simple version: People (the poly community [in my city] and overlapping communities, i.e., BDSM) are gossiping/defaming/ostracizing each other by way of posting on local groups, etc. The fear that abuse is happening has mounted at times over stories that no one quite gets a full pictures of...

I can see how some people would avoid being involved. The thing is, when someone is hurt for whatever reason they can and do pull in the community to complain about that person. It can put fear into people's beliefs about others or at events that something is going to happen, or has happened...

Hey All, In the last year I've spent my time facilitating relationship groups for men and women and became a member of another group aimed at supporting people who have experienced unpleasantness from members of the polyamory (and overlapping) communities, in one way or another. We haven't got...

Emm that's super amazing stuff. Very helpful. Some of what we do, you have on your list. But others we hadn't thought of and can use! Thank you so much for taking the time to write.

This. We want to get away from anyone believing that anyone is right and anyone is wrong. We are focusing on process and meeting people where they are. I think I need to clarify for a second. This is a lay out of the possible process: 1. Something happens and someone has feelings and...

Thanks Galagirl. I'll check out your link. Hi kdt26417, we have a mutual friend on social media. Did you know that? :) Nice to chat with you here for a change. We don't intend to be mediators, as that is a job for professionals and we are volunteer amateurs. It's not a paid position that we...

HI there. It's been so long since I've written here. I can't believe I remembered my password. The polyamory community members where I live may benefit from having some support when there are issues with the members. It's come up over the years, when someone does something unsavoury and the...

Thanks, Shaya. I have indeed moved on. Every now and then, as if by some underlying force, I am compelled to revisit and go over it again. So it is with trauma. I allow that to happen and each time the result has been to take me further away from the trauma. I figure that is healthy for me...

I would like to apologize to everyone involved in my life from 2009-2015 for the needless drama that was caused. I have a specific person in mind when I write this today. The woman Mono was supposedly seeing on Mondays at lunchtime, as his attempt at poly, when we had agreed to be exclusive...

I had a vivid dream. I dreamt that Mono was feeling all nostalgic and wanted to know how my boy was doing, so he reached out. Freaked the shit out of me! Last night I remembered a detail. I have nowhere else to put these details, so I'll start writing them here. One time, we were out in the...

I haven't posted in the forums in ages, but you asked. I haven't read all the responses, so excuse me if there are repeats. I think there are as many reasons to decide on a poly relationship as there are people on the planet. I think a larger reason can be that, at different times of life, it...

It was quite a looooong winter. It lasted forever around these parts. Cold, rainy and grey. Now it's spring and new life has come. Things have been going well, for the most part. Three meet ups into the men's group and I find myself with no idea of how it's going. Men show up, they seem to get...

Shaking off the yuck with a news update... Whew! :rolleyes: So I have made the women's group I facilitated for seven years into a permanent fixture. I can run it competently and all the women that come know what to expect. The feedback has largely been that it has been beneficial and...

Sorry, can't leave this here.

Last night I had the pleasure of being invited to play poker with 6 lesbian friends of my ex-wife/best friend of almost 30 years. I have been once. I learned the rules of Texas Hold 'Em. This time I was a bit more at ease and prepared for a long night of cards, chat, snacks and drinks. I had so...