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Being someone who struggles with schedule changes and feeling anxious about new partners in general, I really liked what KC43 wrote and, if my partner acted the way she said, I would feel much better.

I couldn't let it go because I felt I still want things to work out between us. I still want to be with him, be happy again with him... It's not really excuses, he's always been like that... :(

Dear all, thanks for your messages and sorry I didn´t reply for the last few weeks. It´s been a lot going on and I´ve been trying to do my best to work, eat, be a good mom to my little girl, enjoy the summer. I think I´ve been making a good job - maybe because I suffured so much before, with...

Thanks, Gala Girl. It means a lot. I still can´t believe this. I really can´t.

Hi everyone. Just a quick update. Things were going up and down, V. Kept saying she wants A. to leave me, etc. This was the weekend I asked him to stay. He went to Belgium to meet her, I went to Amsterdam to meet S. - and had a wonderful time. Came back thinking how much I like S. and would...

Yeah, I definetely need to treat me well. I was thinking about making a list. The only thing is, some stuff, when they do come up, are not as bad as you thought they would be, while some other are, indeed. It is hard to know beforehand what those things might be...

I do hope, too. I don´t even know if there will be a strike one, since I don´t know if I can really let it go. Yes, that´s right. We´ll see how the schedule goes and we´ve discussed that they can only have protected sex, as A. and I have unprotected sex. It still makes me sad that we can´t...

Thank you all for your replies. I really means a lot. I´m doing better, and feeling stronger. I´m focusing on myself and trying to not let the negative feelings overcome. I´m eating better. @Lizzie, thanks for this book tip. I might get it. I really appreciate all your help and thoughts. And...

I´m so happy for you. It really warmed my heart to read your post. :)

Yeah, I feel like it is. But I don´t know if I´m overreacting. I also left him in a time he needed me to meet S. But I have to say: tickets were already booked and then something come out and I said I´d canceled my ticket. He said, no, I should go, I´d still be around when he actually needed me...

I wrote you something in here, but it should have been private. :) xx

GalaGirl, I always love how you can point things so clearly out of what has been written. I made it very clear how disappointed, hurt and sad I am that he wasn´t sticking to the plans to be around when I need him - and explicit asked him to do so, and I don´t usually do that. He realizes that...

It´s hard. We did met yesterday and A. told me V. is open to give it a try. She likes him so much she wants to try it. Still, she won´t talk to me, not even chat, to see what our expectations/boundaries are. I don´t think that´s the right way to handle it and A. also said he thinks it would be...

Thanks, guys. I´ll let you know how the talk goes. I will back off from THEIR relationship till they figure it out and try to stick to mine with him... let´s see how it goes.

Yeah, I know. I even wrote A. a letter saying I´d get out of the boat. I did talked to my therapist yesterday who suggested I had to end my relationship with THEM - until they figure things out, for sure -, as most of you suggested, and not with HIM. As I still love him and do believe in our...

Update. A. sent me the last message he got from V., something like that: "we had a hard, but very good talk yesterday. No shouting, only reason, absolute honesty and mutual affection. Now it's gone, gone, never again. I do not know whether that's good. We both do not want to give up this...

Thanks, let´s see if that works. I´ve been trying to use the "multiple quote" buttom or something like that and it wasn´t working. :) (it does works, thanks! :) ) I think you both are right. I should set my boundaries there. It´s been exhausting and doing me no good. But it´s not only his...

I can´t help but feel like she´s playing games. :(

As I just posted it, I get a message: "her husband found out about everything". "maybe we can´t really be friends and have something together, but we´ll see"