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Hi. Welcome to the forum. I take it you're not cis-gendered. And you're afraid you're too old to find polyamorous, queer-friendly partners. Feel free to start a thread with your concerns in the Relationships section if you'd like feedback. :)

Not all poly people treat their potential "thirds" like that, but if you read around the board, this often happens. There are many stories here from former unicorns who were treated like shit. That's why the idea of a couple "sharing a third" is so problematic. I mean, there are more reasons...

As I recall, it is less broad than ours. In polyamory circles, we often define a unicorn by her role as a sex toy for a MF couple to share, and treat as a second class citizen, as a dirty secret, as a secondary, who isn't supposed to date others, who is often expected to move in to their home...

It's not even "selfish" to demand equality! It's being self-respectful. The times when women were jailed for demanding equal rights, back in say, 1899, are long past! Women have been battling for equal rights since the 18th century (i.e., the late 1700s, the time of the American and French...

Congrats! Life is full of changes, isn't it?

It's important to fully read and comprehend sources before posting them, as you might be hoisting yourself by your own petard, if not. Okay, I will respect the Oxford English Dictionary over Sex in the City and a teenager in Maine. :sneaky:(y) However, when you look at the prefixes "pan" and...

Of course not. With a narcissist, it's always: "Rules for thee, but not for me."

I agree! I started reading one of the articles, and it recounts the dialog of an episode of Sex and the City as its authority. That's pretty funny. I am pansexual and I only use that term to mean: attracted to all genders, male, female and in between. I have used that term for at least a...

Ohh, okay, that's a sensible question. You can research it for as long as you want, to be clear on what you want, to be able to answer any questions well when you do tell her. Just keep in mind that when you do tell her, say after 6 months, she will need at least that long to consider it before...

Oh, right. Hmm... well, that is kinda weird. It shows a high degree of insecurity and competiveness. He could have asked her why himself, and also refused to tell her. But, live and learn. I come from the school of preferring more parallel poly in the early months, where I don't meet and...

I'm glad you and wife have made some healthy decisions. Please note, as per your OP, you are not an "idiot," and your wife is not a "monster." This black and white kind of thinking never did anyone any good. You're both just growing and changing, as we all do. Sometimes relationships that...

Yikes! Max sounds super insecure and fearful. If you've been reading around the boards for a good while now, I'm sure you've seen the consensus that there shouldn't be that much control of one partner over their partner's other relationships. It's like you two are just starting to practice...

Having a sense of discretion about TMI, while still being open and honest about needs, desires and feelings, are what is needed in good polyamory practices. It sounds like he's got the opposite thing going on! But once you did discuss it, he should have been willing to accommodate your privacy...

I disagree. Heterosexual means being attracted to one gender (the opposite one from one's own). Homosexual means only being attracted to one's own gender. Pansexual means being attracted to multiple/all genders. I find these to be the common definitions.

So how are you and she and the family celebrating Easter?

Mod hat on: I deleted the epithet from the title because of our guidelines. I know it's common to ask "Is X the asshole?" on current social networks, but our Guidelines recommend speaking respectfully, and that includes ad hominem accusations. Better to criticize behaviors. We are all about...

Try reading the book Sex at Dawn. It's a real eye-opener for how humans biologically need to mate, and how society gets in the way of that, which causes so much agony...

Hi WildShroom, Do you go foraging for wild mushrooms in Greece? I wonder what kind you find. :)🍄 "For a change?" Were your former relationships kept in a small "secondary" box until now, to please your established partner? Is she not really polyamorous, but kind of playing the field until she...

I love this questionnaire. It's like something you'd find in Cosmo magazine! Let's go. We can all play! Yes, unless I had one great partner and have been dating for too long and just feeling jaded about the dating scene, and all the disappointments, and just want to appreciate the great partner...

Hi and welcome, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team